<p>That’s great news, LTS. I wouldn’t worry too much about the sleeping. I think that sleep is one of the best things for you since it’s entirely governed by your body. It doesn’t matter whether it’s from stress, chemo, the flu, a medication (even cold meds), or anything else; tell your doctor if you’re sleeping significantly more or less than normal, but just let your body run your sleep cycle however it wants to. You’ve talked about this earlier, and I agree with you that listening to your body is often the best thing to do.</p>
<p>I think HIV/AIDS “patients” are a fantastic inspiration. They did so much for themselves as a community both socially and medically before anyone else would help them. It’s quite remarkable really, especially regarding the changes brought about in condom use in the gay community, by the gay community. One of my father’s friends from college–and someone who I have looked to as a personal mentor–has been HIV+ for decades without developing AIDS despite an originally bleak and tragic diagnosis right when HIV was at its peak in the early 1980s. He’s now retired, well into his 60s, and going strong. He has one child, a grandchild, an ex-wife on good terms, a fabulous pension, an amazing personal history, has quit smoking, runs a non-profit, and everything else you can think of-- and above that he is beyond smart and well-meaning. I have never asked specifically, but from what I’ve heard, it sounds like his doctor has always believed in his ability to live strong and live well, which is exactly what he has done. Hope, trust, the power of a community–those things should never be discounted.</p>
<p>I will also mention as a brief update that my aunt, someone I mentioned many pages earlier, was granted an amazing respite. Her brain cancer was originally said to be in 80% of her brain and inoperable. She is in her 40s with a son in high school and was given just a few months to live. She had talked to a number of doctors and specialists. After brain surgery to biopsy part of the mass, doctors discovered that the cancer was not the type that they were “90%+” sure it was (even after the surgery and initial biopsy results); instead, it is the slowest growing type of tumor. Though I don’t believe it’s operable or curable, she will hopefully have many years left with her family, instead of short, hurried months. I hope, LTS, that you don’t see this as anything but encouraging. Even in your different situation with a concrete diagnosis, I look at this experience and I see a family told for a month that their wife/mother/sister/aunt/friend was going to die and was going to die soon, and I see that everyone kept faith in her ability to live, no matter the diagnosis. I say luck was on her side (or maybe God, for those who believe in Him); as everyone who’s lived has said, just keep believing that you will be part of that surviving percentage, no matter what it is.</p>