Hey guys- second thread and second post here. Essentially, I have, and have had, a huge crush on someone all of my high school life. They are a grade above me (I am an incoming junior for the 17-18 school year), and we had one class together one semester of freshman year. Not to get dramatic, but I fell in love and ever since then I’ve been head over heels. We don’t really talk very often, and my schedule is set so that I can almost guarrentee we won’t have any classes together. It’s their last year in high school, and I really want to get a class with them, although I don’t know if it’s worth it. I would have to ask one of my friends for their schedule (which would be awkward cause no one knows I have the crush) and then switch my schedule accordingly. Unfortunately, that would mean dropping French III for some other class (my only open spot). Should I do this? I know school is more important than high school crushes but I at least need closure on this, and think it might not be bad. However, I have no clue if I should do it.
There’s more than one way to get to know someone besides a class. Since it seems that you guys already talk to eachother, ask her to hang out! Most colleges recommend you have at least four years of a language or require you to take more language classes otherwise, so I would not recommend switching soley for that reason because it will disrupt your academic trajectory.
Thanks for the quick reply! I didn’t really mention, we don’t talk at all pretty much anymore - asking them to hang out would be weird, having a class with them would be a good way to rebuild the friendship. I also just realized that i could drop AP Psych, an elective I’m taking next year, for it. Would this be more feasible than dropping a language?
What other classes could you perhaps drop?
I can either switch out AP Psych or French III. Suggestions?
@writer80 ^ I forgot to tag you
You might be overthinking this. In regards to asking to hang out, either they say no to hanging out, and you never really had a chance in the first place, so switching classes is a waste, or they say yes, and you didn’t need to switch your class. You said yourself that you know academics are more important than crushes, so why mess up your schedule for this?
Not worth hurting your academics over a girl. Don’t drop the class.
Talk to her outside of class.
Find out what clubs your crush is in and join those. Don’t disrupt your college plans because of a person you don’t really talk to.
I don’t really think switching a class for a crush is a good idea, considering your a junior and you’ll be applying to college soon take the classes that will benefit you. Junior year is tough and it’s the most important year, I’d say take the classes that will help you and talk to your crush outside of class :). Besides think of it this way, if u end up taking the same class will you actually talk to her?. I’m a girl and I’d rather a guy asked me outside of class than switched in a class to be with me because I find it a bit strange. But it is also a nice gesture!
Do what you think is right, good luck!
Horrible idea! Figure out another way to get to know her. Do not put your social life ahead of academics. Academics are a priority.
We all suffer from crushes, which pretty nearly never work out. Crushes on older, or for old guys much younger women particularly hardly ever work out.
Either talk to your crush outside of class, or forget it.
Whether you’re a girl or guy it’s kinda super creepy to manipulate your schedule like that and if your crush ever found out he or she would probably be pretty freaked out.
If I were you, I wouldn’t bother, because you (probably) won’t be with her a few years from now. For me, academics are more important than my social-life… But what do I know, I’m only 13!
1° Don’t drop a core class you’ll need for college admissions
2° Figure out what club or clubs s/he’s in and join it/them :)… and it’ll even be good for your college applications not to mention to WAY easier to talk to someone in a club than in class!
^^ Agreed with above. The club environment is much more suitable for talking to other people. And it’s been a while since I’ve been in high school. but you might have assigned seating so you might not even be able to sit next to them/talk to them.
I don’t understand. If you don’t already know her schedule, then how do you know you aren’t already in a class together?
How would you feel if you switched your classes around and the first day of school started… only for you to discover that she changed her schedule for some random reason? Would it still have been worth it? What if she has a boyfriend in whichever class you manage to get with her? Will you still think it was worth it as you watch them make googly eyes at one another for 45 minutes or so a day all year long?
Live your life doing the activities and classes that work best for your goals and interests. Be open to new relationships. In that way, the people you form lasting connections with will be the ones you have most in common with and will be stronger and more meaningful.
@MYOS1634 @shawnspencer @bopper Unfortunately, they aren’t very involved- they were in band, which I was in, and then they dropped that, and the only other thing they are involved in is the Spanish Club, which obviously I take French :-/ I was considering joining the club but then I realized I know nothing about Spanish and probably would just make a fool out of myself lol. Hopefully next year they’re more involved
- They are a grade ahead, something I think I forgot to mention - all there core classes won’t be with mine, unless I took an elective with them
- Honestly really good advice, thanks!