It depends on the D1 and D3 we are talking about. Ivies will recruit first. It’s ok to ask the coach where they are with their rosters.
We didn’t string coaches along and were fairly transparent with where we were and when we felt we could make a decision (after last OV). For the most part this worked well. Having said that, we were not holding out for a pipe dream and by the end of the summer we had a pretty decent idea of where we stood with the coaches. Ultimately, there were two offers that did not materialize but all the others that we thought would, did.