@Momofadult, we didn’t use the term photobomb back then, but that is what those canoers did!
Been to a wedding where the reception was hosted by a loud, obnoxious professional “tamada” - yikes. At one point, every table had to come up with a toast to say in honor of the newlyweds, and the guy would select a person from that table to deliver the toast. The same married couples dance happened at that wedding, too.
At D’s aforementioned outdoor ceremony–the first thought was on the beach, but she worried about an aunt and a grandmother in wheelchairs. She changed to a small plaza on the lawn of the site, in view of the water, but negotiable for everyone. She viewed accessibility as way ahead of personal want. Also, as I said, we kept it short, so people weren’t outside for long (weather was not too hot, luckily–and also luckily, the rain stopped just in time for chairs to be put out, or else it ws going to have to be moved inside.)
As far as an audience, it was a public transportation venue, so yeah, there were casual witnesses. One of the ferries gave a toot, I believe.
As far as wedding party, all members were given carte blanche to choose what to wear–the women all wore non-matching lovely dresses; guys all chose suits. They were fabulous!
That does sound fabulous, garland. Those unplanned touches, like the ferry toot, make for some of the best memories.
Our niece had a wedding where there were not enough places for people to sit. It was held in City Park in New Orleans. It was not a pleasant reception.
I totally agree that loud music is terrible. Also, please try and greet all of the guests as early as possible. We just went to a wedding with a sit down dinner. After dinner the Bride and Groom were spending a lot of time talking to their friends. When we were getting ready to leave we went to give them our best wishes. They continued to talk to their friends for another 5 minutes before turning to us. ( I understand that they wanted to see their friends.) When we finished our brief 2 minute chat I turned around and found 15-20 couples standing in line waiting to talk to them. The last people in line did not look happy. Otherwise it was a nice wedding.
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yeah, P’nina Tornay dresses-30k to look naked. Oh my.
“If you want someone in the wedding party–accept him/her the way he/she is”
AY-men. One of my sisters asked me for permission to dye her hair a loud color the summer of my wedding. Of course I said she could do whatever she wanted, but it made me sad that so many brides issue diktats, she felt she had to ask.
She ended up dying her hair platinum, but the pictures were all so colorful that fuchsia would have blended right in.
Two of my bridesmaids didn’t shave, and I picked off the shoulder dresses that covered the armpits because while I’m cool with them being furry, I didn’t want to see it in the pictures. They had veto power on the dresses, so it was all good. I didn’t actually say “I don’t want to see your pits, how do you like these dresses”, I just sent them some options and they picked one of them.
We were at a wedding reception this summer and there were not assigned tables. No problem except there were not enough chairs for a while. Quite a few people were standing around looking lost. I had visions of trying to balance my plate and eat at the same time when the staff brought out more chairs. Apparently, they used the chairs for seating at the wedding event and then forgot to move them over. Not tacky but annoying.
How about this for tacky?
We were at a family wedding. Everyone was assigned a seat at a numbered table. I’m sure it took the family a ton of time to do those table assignments.
I put my purse down at our table and went to get something to drink. When I got back…my purse was gone. No…not stolen. A relative decided that all of our side of the family should have adjacent tables so…she switched the table numbers (and moved my purse to the new location).
Not a problem? Well the table she swapped was the one that the wedding party was supposed to be seated at.
Maybe I was tacky too…but I told her to switch things back! Not her wedding…not her choice!
Oh, a friend worked at a party store. A bride came in to order her wedding invitations. A line at the bottom informed guests of where she was registered for the baby. My very proper friend was appalled.
I have seen people not sit at their assigned tables at wedding receptions since they want to sit with their friends who are sitting at another table. Makes it awkward when the rest of the guests assigned to the table come and there are not seats for them and the guests that switched insist that they were assigned to this particular table. A staff member then comes and asks them to show their place card and then they end up looking foolish.
My young niece was asked to be in a wedding as the flower girl. She was SOOO excited. A few days before the wedding she and another friend decided to cut their hair. Needless to say it was a mess. The bride then told her she could no longer be in the wedding. She was devastated.
Just…wow…
wow. There are so many ways to work around a kid doing that to their hair that don’t include booting them from the wedding-like a flower crown, etc. That’s just…wow.
Re: standing at receptions–H and I went to the wedding of my older D’s college roommate last summer. My D was a bridesmaid.
Wedding ceremony and reception were at a yacht club. The ceremony was outside (really beautiful). There were no chairs–everyone stood. Reception afterward was inside–circular buffet in the middle of the room with a bar in the back. There were high tables where people could eat–no chairs. The only chairs were lined up along the walls so if you wanted to sit and eat you had to do so at those chairs.
We left when the dancing started. It wasnt fun standing all night.
The thing is pictures are for looking back and remembering that day. Instead of devastating that little girl Imagine how fun it would have been to years later pull out those pictures and laugh with her…“remember when you cut your hair days before our wedding…too funny”
I had a picture taken with me and my sisters at our home. When we got the pictures my dad had somehow walked into the background in shorts and black socks with sandals. I actually ordered that picture because he was in it and it was too funny. The photographer took it upon himself to photoshop him out of the picture and did not save the original. I was very sad!!! Now that my father is gone you don’t know how bad I wish I had that picture.
This isn’t a wedding story but another event with assigned table seating. Several of the people who were at our assigned table were already seated and were saving 2 seats for DH and me. When we walked up, the friends were in a “conversation” with another woman who had put her purse down and insisted that she had a party of 8 and they would not all fit at the table. We stood quietly while this interaction continued and the other woman got rather indignant… Until she looked down and realized she was looking at the wrong seating card and was at the wrong table. She huffed off and did not apologize.
That’s awful, @bhs1978 . Any decent stylist would have been able to repair your little niece’s hair enough to look cute, perhaps with an assist from a well-placed flower. The selfishness of some people.
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bride came in to order her wedding invitations. A line at the bottom informed guests of where she was registered for the baby.
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Lol…I’m not “very proper,” but that would be weird. Expectant brides usually have…bridal shower, wedding, and then baby shower…in that order. If the baby will arrive before the nuptials, then the baby shower would be earlier.