When my BIL got married, I took a really nice pic of my FIL and his siblings (my husband’s dad and his aunts and uncles). Ten years later, a cousin got married, and I took a picture of the same folks.
Always got 5x7 copies and frames and sent them off…both wedding times.
One of the aunts had on the same suit…at both weddings.
I would hope that it’s all about her and the groom.
Because of these threads, I recently asked my 21-year -old daughter what kind of wedding she might want some day. Her first reaction was to say, “I’m not getting married any time soon!” When I said I knew that and was asking only hypothetically, she said that she had no idea and had never given it any thought. She really had no interest in discussing the subject. So that’s one girl who hasn’t spent any time dreaming about her wedding day!
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I never thought it was all about me. My MIL thought it was all about her and her guest list.
We thought of it as throwing a parry for our friends. There weren’t many relatives there.
I thought of it as the day I would be the most beautiful I’d ever be 
But I did not feel like the “star”-it was just the one day where I was the most sparkly, beautiful, and dressed up I would ever be.
Beyond the surface element of that, there was also the much more exciting fact that I was getting to marry the love of my life and be around the people I loved the most for a very special day. Remember, I was 23 and that was the extent of my emotional gravitas at the time.
@oldfort holy cow that story was hilarious! I have to say, I think that was a brilliant tactical move by the mom. >:)
At the time when I got married, I had horrendous acne, not just on my face but also on my chest and back. If that was the best I was ever going to look, I should have gotten married with a paper bag over my head.
(In retrospect, I wonder why the guy I was marrying didn’t seem to care that his soon-to-be-wife looked like the Great American Zit Factory.)
Gosh, Marian. It saddens me that you “talk down” about yourself - not just above, but in other threads. Presumably he thought you were beautiful and a nice person.
I did have one of those big blowout weddings (hello, 1986 conspicuous consumption) but I can’t really say it was something I’d dreamed about or given much thought to until it occurred. It’s not like it’s something that is relevant to my everyday life. I have a formal portrait from our wedding hanging in our bedroom, but that’s about it. It’s not like I would routinely take our wedding pictures or video and look at them. Maybe I did once with the kids but that’s about it!
A woman after my own heart.
I didn’t mean to talk down about myself – just to say that I was a heck of a lot better looking in my forties than in my twenties. But I got married in my twenties.
oldfort, that story made my day. It’s the kind of thing I would threaten to do, but not really do. Just thinking about it would be good enough.
Just thinking ahead so I won’t be tacky. If Hillary becomes President and if DS ever meets a nice woman, falls in love, and has a proposal accepted (and the first “if” is way way more likely than the second “if”), how do I address the wedding invitation? The Presidents Clinton or President and President Clinton?
Read a FB post tonight from a friend who is a wedding coordinator. The Bride was MIA for her own Wedding Rehearsal. She finally called in after 1.5 hours and said she was “too busy to make it to the rehearsal, but the rest of you go on without me.” No clue on whether the groom showed up or not, but hoping my friend updates again after the wedding tomorrow.
Also, this bride has 28 (not a typo) yes 28 bridesmaids for her wedding.
I think it should be:
President Hillary Clinton
President William Clinton
1600 Pennsylvania Avenue
Washington, DC
Because that is how I was taught to address invitations to married doctors.
For fun, http://www.formsofaddress.info/FOA_president_US_former.html
And hey, do it. Apparently the WH “typically responds with a congratulatory note stamped with an official seal that many brides covet as a scrapbook centerpiece."
When we got married, we had H’s youngest niece as flower girl and 2 pre-teen nieces as candle lighters (acolytes). MIL offered to buy the girls’ dresses, so we asked her to find matching (in color–not identical in style) green dresses for the acolytes; my SIL (their mother) was unreliable, and I was too busy with senior year of college and the rest of the wedding details. I should have known better. MIL bought garage sale dresses that clashed. Please note that I am not adverse to used clothing, even for special occasions (as long as they look brand new). I love Clothes Mentor, etc., and buy my clothes second hand a lot. It’s just that these two obviously clashed together, and one even showed a safety pin where MIL tried to fix a part the day of the wedding, so it looked second hand. (My sister mentioned both the clashing and the pin to me, so both were visible to others–not just a sensitive bride.) Ugh! The girls didn’t like their dresses, but MIL claimed it was too late to get others, and I was too timid at the time to insist (which I now regret–for the girls even more than for me). I half-heartedly pretended it was ok, but I know MIL knew me enough to know it wasn’t–not just for me, but for her granddaughters. It was so awkward.
I had planned on having the girls walk side by side, as they are supposed to, but they walked one in front of the other. The one with the dress that looked obviously second hand appeared embarrassed.
Have you seen traffic lights with different colored green lights side by side? Those have always driven me crazy, and I call them “clashing green lights.” These dresses were like that, and I still cringe inwardly when I’m reminded of them (which is pretty much every time I see clashing green lights). It’s ridiculous because this was 22 years ago, lol! But, really, I think that, when I’m cringing, I’m cringing at all of the things that have bothered me about my in-laws, not just the dresses. They are just a symbol.
drats - guessed wrong. On an invitation, you only use the title for a sitting president. Good to know
Ok…post 993 takes the cake! No bride at the rehearsal dinner?? Wonder if she will,show up for the wedding…and totally wonder why she wasn’t at the rehearsal.
28 bridesmaids? Let me guess…they are her closest friends, and all sisters and sisters inlaws. It will take a long time for them all to parade in for the wedding!
and then for all 28 bridesmaids and groomsmen to be introduced by an obnoxious DJ at the wedding reception – a new thing for us to see at weddings we’ve been to this year – not a fan