^Unfortunately, they do. I’m sorry to say I have been the recipient of several myself. And not just for monetary gifts…They seem to start out “Thank you for your lovely gift. We so appreciate your generosity”…and so on… I agree with @HImom - Incredibly tacky.
ETA: The first one of these I ever received was from the recipient of a monetary graduation gift.
It really doesn’t take much time to write, “Thank you for the generous gift of [a boot scraper.] DH and I plan to have it in our new home, where it will be put to good use. It was so kind of you to think of us and share our wedding day.”
I’ve got one from D’s wedding yesterday. Wedding party and family were swapping out for various pre-wedding photos in the church courtyard. Due to the smoking hot day, I came back into church after the photos I was slotted to take to stay cool. 3 of SIL’s groomsmen were sneaking up the church stairs with a case of beer stuck under one guy’s jacket. It was the tackiest moment of our weekend (that I know about) to bring alcohol into the church area where the guys were dressing, which happened to be the youth room. I just wasn’t in a position to shut that down, but I did pass the info on discreetly to a member of groom’s family who may have gotten it shut down. The guys had been to a local restaurant/bar for beers, pretzels, & pool pre-dressing & ceremony and exH funded an open bar with two regular stations and one bourbon bar. There was no lack of available alcohol over the course of the day, but it was certainly not appropriate at the church. These were 29 & 30 year old guys, so their lack of a sense of propriety was disappointing.
I’ve got one. A classmate of S1’s was just married. The mom has a bit of an ego. She wore a gold evening gown with sequins to the wedding. Beautiful dress for a ball, but not very appropriate on her daughter’s big day!
I went to one wedding where both sets of parents were divorced and the groom’s parents were definitely not friendly with each other. I sensed a lot of competitiveness and one-upmanship.
The groom’s dad had gotten secretly engaged to his girlfriend just before the wedding. At the reception, as the wedding party was being introduced, he had the DJ announce them as “the future Mr. and Mrs. Jones”!
Way to steal the spotlight on your son’s day 
^^ Unbelievable! Shame on ‘Mr. Jones’!
Romani I think that’s only a good assumption in certain places. Lived in south my whole life and have only been to one wedding with sit down dinner (bride from elsewhere). And most recent have been big deal social events for couples that could have afforded it. Now these are night time formal events with very heavy hors deuves like carving stations so no one goes hungry.
The wedding I went to this weekend had a reception from 7-10 at their Ward church. I wasn’t surprised that there was not a sit down dinner, but a buffet with sandwiches, veggies, fruit, and then the wedding cake. They had a sheet cake that was cut so you didn’t have to wait for the couple to cut the cake. Plenty of food.
I don’t know if this is tacky or just rude.
When a wedding photographer/videographer wants to videotape the bride walking down the aisle and in the video he/she captures everyone with their cameraphones directed at the bride. Guests getting in the way because they are are busy taking 360 videos of themselves which interferes with the professional photographers ability to capture the wedding nicely on film. Guests posting self made wedding videos and photographs before the couple has had a chance to announce they are married online. I would give them a chance to post the first wedding photo to say “just married”
My inlaws went to a wedding where the groom got really, really drunk. So drunk that he ended up at the ER the next morning worried that he was dying because his head hurt so much! I think they actually did an MRI. No problems, because hello, he was just drunk and now, hungover.
My inlaws said he and his guy friends had been drinking a lot and getting more and more rambunctious as the night progressed. They felt sorry for the bride. We thought the marriage would end pretty quickly but it’s been a few years and they’re still together. Cue Eddie Vedder singing “better man”…
Actually, a lot of young couples encourage people to post “live” these days from their weddings with special hashtags and such. Not my thing, but I see it done often. They create their own hashtags. Many are into the branding on instagram and such.
My personal pet peeve are photographers and videographers who aren’t discreet. A professional should be able to get your shots during the ceremony, especially in church, without making oneself too obvious.
I think its kind of tacky when people are way hungover AT the wedding from too much celebrating at the rehearsal dinner.
Some weddings are now being called unplugged where they ask everyone to turn off their phones and refrain from taking pictures during the ceremony so that they aren’t in the way of the highly paid photographer.
scmom, that’s fair. We’re both from the same area (not the south) and this will be my first wedding without a sit-down dinner. She is also the 5th or 6th sibling in her family to get married and they all had sit-down dinners.
My SIL was very blunt about absolutely no cameras during the ceremony. I didn’t blame her one bit and the guests were good about policing each other. She had literally one request and that should be respected.
My other SIL and BIL’s church had a very strict no phone/camera policy. We were told that the priest would call you out if he saw one.
It’s just really rude IMO to have your phone up. You don’t need to take pictures during the ceremony (unless specifically asked by the couple to take pictures). The photographer will do that.
We got invited to an awkward wedding. The wedding ceremony was just fine, a normal church kind of a ceremony, but the reception that followed was just weird. The bride’s parents were religious refugees from Eastern Europe, and they had a deal with the groom’s side that the reception would be on their terms. Everyone was seated at the tables, waiting for the parents to say their blessing to the newlyweds. Instead, the mother began wailing, praying, everyone from their side joined in singing religious hymns, etc. It really sounded like they were about to bury a loved one… The American guests sat with their mouths open. The spectacle lasted a loooong time. The food got cold by the time the praying ended. 
The SHORTEST wedding reception I ever attended.
I attended a Korean wedding where the groom’s family belonged to some Christian denomination that didn’t do alcohol nor dancing.
At the reception, there was a table to register how much cash you were gifting to the newlywed couple–totally mercenary. No party entertainment whatsoever, no booze. People filled their plates at a buffet line, ate, then immediately left.
I have not read the whole thread. But have attended many weddings. To be honest, they are all the same.
Stop trying to make a statement or gimmick out of your wedding. Start concentrating on your relationship together.
Marriage is hard. Once you have gotten past the fantasy land of meeting, falling in love and planning the wedding, comes life.
It seems to be a thing to get photos of the groom (and often the bride) sharing drinks with their attendants as they get ready for the ceremony.
Weddings = unfettered drinking for a lot of people, unfortunately.
Just before my sister’s wedding, my H, who doesn’t drink, got roped into doing shots with his soon-to-be BIL and his other groomsmen buddies, all of whom are bigger guys than my H and were kind of the hard-drinking kind with a lot of tolerance. As H then stood up (literally) in the wedding, he began to sway back and forth and a relative brought a chair so he could sit down, otherwise he would have fainted.
If you can’t get through a wedding ceremony without drinking, you’ve got a problem IMO. These guys were the classic heavy drinkers who thought it was cool. I think it’s tacky.
I took phone pics at a family wedding last summer…and even during the ceremony. The grooms grandparents (my inlaws) were not able to be there because one had been hospitalized. I was able to immediately send wedding pics to them, which they greatly appreciated. One other sib did a ipad video. That was also sent.
Sometimes there are good reasons for folks taking pics during the ceremony.
S and DIL had a hashtag for their wedding - and also posted the hashtag by their photo backdrop at the reception - it was so nice to go on Instagram, etc. the next days and see the photos that friends/family took during their event! - most included a really nice well wish for the new couple.
So, they created that hashtag knowing that a few pics might pop up on social media - so at least by encouraging the hashtag they could see what was posted online.