<p>emeraldkity, if it’s a PROFILE school, he needs to provide all 1099s for the IDOC. Claiming the amounts on taxes is not sufficient. PROFILE specifically asks for the 1099s.</p>
<p>Referring to tax filing- we have seen on other financial threads- the 1099 is often not accurate, that is why payers have to keep their own records.</p>
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<p>This, and earlier posts about his general lack of initiative in college send up a red flag with me. Have you considered that your son may be addicted to drugs or alcohol?
The rudeness and general apathy are not normal for this age- especially for kids who are qualified for top colleges, as your son apparently was. I would not shut off his phone. I would be doing a lot of sleuthing about now–maybe even make an unannounced visit. Your son could be in serious trouble and in denial. If so, he won’t be able to get out of it on his own.<br>
Good luck.</p>
<p>If any of my kids disrespected me that way I would have a hard time paying for college. Perhaps a leave of absence from school and working full time but not living at home would be what he needs to start being respectful. Reality might make him more mature.</p>
<p>My older S used to “go dark” at college for weeks at a time. It’s a thing for him, he still does it. He hates the phone, and he feels pressure when he talks to one of us. I have to threaten to post on his facebook page which is embarrassing for him. When we got at the end of our ropes in college we would start calling numbers he frequently called on his cell phone bill, like one of his roomates and they would give the phone to him, kind of put him on the spot. He wasn’t rude though. He has communication issues.</p>
<p>I agree that is a lot to ask the kid to fill out the profile and taxes. My 30 yr old D still has her father do her taxes.</p>
<p>^^^^^what SweetTea said. It really works.</p>
<p>Before cutting off the cell phone, try cutting just the texting …</p>
<p>emerald, our 1099 for school expenses was wrong, too. I was mainly referring to 1099s for interest income. PROFILE wants those, too, even if the 1099 is for $10.42.</p>
<p>“The rudeness and general apathy are not normal for this age- especially for kids who are qualified for top colleges, as your son apparently was. I would not shut off his phone. I would be doing a lot of sleuthing about now–maybe even make an unannounced visit. Your son could be in serious trouble and in denial.”</p>
<p>^^ Sadly, the rudeness and apathy, if not normal, are more common than most parents are willing to acknowledge. Still, I would check to see whether there are addiction or other problems - - but an unannounced visit could set him off.</p>
<p>Can’t the son’s phone be restricted so that he can call and text only to you?</p>
<p>Before cutting off the cell phone, try cutting just the texting …</p>
<p>best idea to me
i bet this would work</p>
<p>If you go this route, place a block on all data. Removing text doesn’t mean he can’t text, it means you’ll be charged an obscene amount for it.</p>
<p>Good luck.</p>
<p>Our 24 yo grad student son often goes dark weeks at a time.</p>
<p>Quiet young man, dislikes the phone (like me!)
When I NEED to know he’s OK, I send an email with a question in the subject line like:
“Are you still there” or “It’s Spring here, is it Spring there?” and
then say HIT REPLY now.</p>
<p>At least I know he’s alive. Then once month or so, he’ll call on a Sunday afternoon and yak for an hour. Go figure.
But he’s never rude or disrespectful. I would have trouble paying for his apt let alone his cell phone bill if he were.</p>
<p>Funny, but I received TWO emails from DS today…of course asking help with passwords for Student loan site for exit counseling and some banking info…stuff HE needed. Then he does know how to contact us.</p>
<p>Best of luck.</p>
<p>We knew some parents who transferred their son’s “allowance” into his account on Monday mornings IF he called them by Sunday evenings for a weekly chat. Their expectation was that he should call once a week. If he forgot, no cash that week.</p>
<p>It sounds like they were paying him to talk to them, but it seemed to work.</p>
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<p>I’m with you on this one. I pay the college bills and I want to fill out the financial information. But, in this case I think the problem is more of an attitude issue as opposed to not doing the financial stuff.</p>