<p>A friend of mine is applying RD…but she just found out she’s pregnant (!!)
If she’s accepted, would Penn allow her to wait a year to sort herself out before starting college? Or should she rather not apply, sort herself out and then apply next year for the first time? If Penn were to hear the reason, would that affect admissions chances?</p>
<p>Thanks for advice!</p>
<p>Penn would let her sit out a year…</p>
<p>Do you need a reason to defer for 1 yr (and do they check that reason)?</p>
<p>i cant imagine penn would consider that a hook. it might not be a good thing, i’d sit it out a year and come back later. </p>
<p>lol tho i didnt think this was going to be legit i thought u just put that as the title to get poeple to chance u hahaha</p>
<p>Well, QuakerOats415, Obv its not a good thing for her! I wasn’t suggesting it would help her get in…I was more wondering it it would negatively affect her chances. </p>
<p>Btw, its not me, I’m a nerd, I’m on CC, i’m applying to Ivies…where would I have the time for promiscuous sex? lol. </p>
<p>Aninor, I think they want an essay on why you think it would be better for you to put off the year: most people say they want to travel, or to volunteer in Africa…not “I’m gonna be too busy checking out adoption agencies to go to lecture” lol</p>
<p>Thanks for your advice though.</p>
<p>just a comment. there’s PLENTY of time for promiscuous sex, ivy league or not. but ya what i was saying or what i meant is that penn would probably say it wouldn’t negatively affect her chances, but clearly human nature would tell us that “the pregnant chick” doesn’t have her **** together so they probably would instinctively frown upon her application a little bit more than the “not so pregnant chick” who took a year off to volunteer in africa</p>
<p>I guess in an ideal world, Penn would realize that they really shouldn’t hold it against her because, who knows, maybe the guy who got her pregnant (equally not having his **** together) is also applying but biologically doesn’t have to display his mistke</p>
<p>Wow QuakerOats, what a dick comment. The question wasn’t whether or not the girl would have a “hook” for college apps but rather if she could defer to think her life out. Get your ass out of CC for once and look at life from a relatively NORMAL point of view.</p>
<p>Haha yeah, at some point, it isn’t all about getting in. The guy who got her preggers is already in grad school, so he doesn’t need a hook lol. </p>
<p>And both can “have their **** together” and still have an accident happen, don’t forget. I don’t know whether she’s putting it up for adoption or heading the the route that rhymes with ‘contortion’ but either way, i can’t see how she’ll be in any shape for college in the fall…</p>
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<li><p>If she’s accepted, there won’t be any problem deferring for a year. If they require a reason, “I’m pregnant and having the baby (but don’t intend to raise him)” will do fine. What may not do fine is any wavering on the last parenthetical.</p></li>
<li><p>My instinct is that it would be better to apply now, and to defer if accepted, than to take a year off and apply next year. I would advise her not to mention her pregnancy at all. If she’s a good candidate now, she won’t likely be a better candidate 12 months and one baby from now.</p></li>
<li><p>Obviously, this is new news, and a lot to deal with. She should keep her options open and not make irrevocable choices (on any front) until she decides, calmly and deliberately, what to do. If she terminates the pregnancy (which should happen pretty soon, if it happens), there is no reason in the world why she shouldn’t be ready to start college in the fall if she wants to. And if she wants to defer enrollment anyway, she had better have a plan for the year that involves something more than wallowing in her own drama. If she continues the pregnancy, she needs to have a plan for what will happen with the baby, and she needs to be prepared for a certain amount of doubt and wavering on her part about whether her initial choice was right. Continuing the pregnancy AND keeping the baby – lots of people wind up doing that – would likely produce a major change in her life-plans. If that happens, she’s probably not going to go to Penn, even if she was accepted, at least not anytime soon. That’s fine, too – lots of great people don’t ever go to Penn – but she shouldn’t decide that precipitously, or invite others to make the decision for her.</p></li>
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<p>wow chill all i actually said was there’s a possibility she could be stereotyped as a typical teen pregnancy student who is less than a model citizen. and i myself am not the one saying she doesn’t have her **** together i was trying to convey the stereotype and what is (unfortunately) typically associated with teenage pregnancy. </p>
<p>but regardless, the fact that you decided to go insane on a comment that had no intentions of (and if you actually read it, is not) being malicious makes me a little worried about you. and what does that even mean?.. “Get your ass out of CC for once and look at life from a relatively NORMAL point of view” … So are you saying that inside CC people don’t have a normal point of view? I don’t get it, bud. And let’s be honest here – the normal point of view (not mine, not yours, not that of an understanding and reasonable person) would be to frown upon a pregnant teen. So you’re saying we should all take a step back and use that normal point of view then? Don’t take **** so seriously bro, especially when you’ve got it backwards.</p>
<p>Aww that’s cute.</p>
<p>That post was entirely non-responsive.</p>
<p>She can take a year off. Just get an abortion; much quicker IMO (baby cant mooch if its dead…just sayn’)</p>
<p>^thats horrible…
She should just apply normally, be accepted somewhere (anywhere) then tell the school she wants to take a year off and start in September 2010 and be in the class of 2014.</p>
<p>JHS#10. Excellent advice as usual.</p>
<p>Ya 13 thats kinda … distasteful? Hah.</p>
<p>and MYSO, urs was the “non-responsive” post. i’m done here.</p>
<p>Haha …Ok. I still can’t believe you said “It’s not a hook” after some girl mentioned teen pregnancy. </p>
<p>That doesn’t make you think about how terrible of a person you are?</p>
<p>well i’m pretty sure i didn’t say “It’s not a hook”, but i guess u can quote me improperly anyways…? i said i cant imagine penn would consider that a hook, and i definitely didn’t mean it with any level of seriousness considering the nature of my entire first post, i thought she was kidding about the title of her post to begin with. </p>
<p>and even if someone were to say it’s not a hook why would that make them a terrible person? wouldnt that just mean they werent very helpful answering with what she wanted to know? </p>
<p>the terrible person is you. you have a hell of an attitude that not many people could enjoy. take it easy man</p>
<p>i just read this in something columbia sent me (but it probably applies to penn too)</p>
<p>“Columbia University…does not discriminate on the basis of race, color, sex, gender, pregnancy…” and so forth…so i’m guessing being pregnant wont hurt her</p>
<p>lets not let our sexual anxieties cause a rift between the bond that holds us together ok. I think the real problem here is the fact that condoms are in fact not 100% fail safe. There, I said it. I hope everyone can now get along. Now let the sexual healing commence.</p>