<p>The school may be fine. It’s just a question of timing, perhaps. This school may not have had to discipline students for off-campus behavior within “living” memory, i.e., the memory of current parents and students. Day schools accept many students from public schools, and not all of the students and parents may have realized that the school does follow the official code of conduct. A student can be thrown out of a private school very quickly. </p>
<p>If a wild party has hit the press recently, though, it would be worthwhile to ask if any disciplinary measures were taken. If the students are so bold as to boast of wild drinking parties within adults’ hearing, though, I’d bet that a news report about partying at “the elite ____ private school” is not far off. </p>
<p>If the administrative team doesn’t dare discipline students for off-campus behavior, that’s a red flag.</p>