<p>@Hondu - every family has their hot buttons and routines. Kids bedroom tidyness is what has fallen to the bottom of my priority scale in the past 2-4 years. I don’t like food being eaten in bedrooms, but how do I stop my 19yo from popping into the kitchen to heat something up when I’m at work or in bed. She lives on the 3rd floor with her own bathroom, so I just keep the door closed. The HS freshman son is on the go from 6am-9pm with school, sports, homework and boy scouts and weekends are filled with swim meets, church and more boy scouts. As someone said, my kids are not doing drugs, drinking or smoking and we sit down to dinner as a family at least 5 nights/week, so I consider that a success. (I have a housekeeper that comes 2x/week for 4 hours each time to keep the house tidy!).</p>