<p>I got a likely letter the other day. </p>
<p>Columbia is the first choice for several of my good friends, and none of them recieved likely letters. I’m not sure how to handle the situation whenever Columbia comes up in conversation over the next few weeks… do I act like I’m also really anxious, and not mention that I’m already in? Do I tell them about it, even though it will probably increase their anxiety?</p>
<p>Is anyone else facing a similar dilemna? How are you handling it?</p>
<p>Honestly, don’t tell them. It will make them more apprehensive and you don’t know how they will accept the news. Just wait for your official acceptance letter. :)</p>
<p>I agree, they don’t need to know. especially since it’s not official yet.</p>
<p>DO NOT tell them. It will be salt in the wounds that you were one of the best of the applicant pool. Inevitable comparisons, etc. </p>
<p>It may seem like a long time, but it’s only for a month or so, really, before they find out</p>
<p>no need to tell your friends it could only mess up your friendship and they could still get in anyhow. try to not even get into conversations about it that way you won’t have to lie to them</p>
<p>What kind of friends do you have who would envy your receiving a likely letter? Are they such nervous wrecks that your receipt of a likely letter will cause them insufferable anxiety? Just tell them you received one when the opportunity presents itself, and they ought to be happy for you. I don’t know any close friends who would not share with me such an important development as this.</p>
<p>I, myself, wrote in my Facebook status that I received a likely letter, and all of my friends and acquaintances were gushing with praise – even the ones who also applied to Columbia and other elite schools. Why would you not announce to the world such an exciting moment in your life?</p>
<p>Moreover, what kind of friend would you be to hide such important information from your close buddies? And why would you even consider feigning anxiety around them? That’s dishonesty, pure and simple, not the mark of a good friend.</p>
<p>Just tell them.</p>
<p>I completely agree with Mustafah. </p>
<p>If my friend got a likely and I didn’t I would be the first to congratulate them.</p>
<p>I think for the time being, you should keep it to yourself. I’m a high school senior right now, so I know you must be jumping with joy inside (congratulations, by the way 
). Being around people who have gotten rejected, deferred, or are waiting for the news from various schools, I know that tensions are high. People start to feel like they are in competition with one another and it makes things tough. Celebrate on your own for now, and let everyone know later! It’s a great accomplishment :)</p>
<p>geekylicious - personally, i wouldn’t tell your friends because although they will probably be excited for you, it’ll make them feel awful…and possibly hurt them in doing so. while, i wouldn’t lie to them if it comes up, i wouldn’t think to bring it up and be really ostentatious about it. doing that would come off as being downright mean.</p>
<p>I really admire people who get great news like that and keep it to themselves. Keep in mind
your friends will celebrate with you March 31. Congratulations!!!</p>
<p>telling your really close friends is fine, but posting it on facebook (even when you get the official letter) could really end up hurting people who might not be as lucky as you are…eh, that’s just my opinion</p>
<p>Well it depends. If you know your friends will get upset then it may not be in your best interest to tell them. I go to a very competitive school and many of the student are very secretive about where they apply and where they get accepted. Make a wise decision. You don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings.</p>
<p>Okay, posting it on Facebook might be considered gaudy if you go to a really competitive school. But telling your close friends? Cummon, that’s a given no matter where you go to school.</p>
<p>Maybe they did get letters and aren’t telling you…</p>
<p>(paranoia)</p>
<p>no really, congratulations!
and you should probably be quiet about it as long as you can, but don’t lie to them. Nobody likes being lied to, or made a fool.</p>
<p>I think I told 5 faculty members and 4 (close) friends about my likely letter. One of my teachers said that I should be proud and announced it to one of his classes. After that point, it spread like wildfire and now the whole school knows.
I feel really bad now and wish I hadn’t told anybody. I was especially careful about NOT mentioning it to friends who wanted to go to that school, and when they found I could tell they were hurting.</p>
<p>Honestly, don’t tell anybody - it just causes problems and puts strains on relationships. I wish that I had realized this a week ago…</p>
<p>BTW, I’m now paranoid that the admissions office made a mistake and that I’m gonna get rejected! Who wants to feel like that?!?</p>
<p>Your friends should not be jealous about it, but at the same time you should not be a braggart ******. It’s a balancing act.</p>
<p>Agree with “don’t ask, don’t tell”. It’s a nice accomplishment for you. So be proud, celebrate wildly with your parents, tell us anonymously on CC and we’ll send praise your way. But don’t go around bringing up, out of the blue “Hey, I got a likely”. Bad manners. It’s meant to help YOU in your decision on where you will go.</p>
<p>Don’t lie and don’t even evade the question. If someone asks, be honest. There’s nothing worse than false modesty. At the same time, don’t go out of your way to tell people or it will seem like bragging. Perhaps most importantly, it might be wise to wait until you’re actually accepted. I’ve never heard of someone getting a likely and then being rejected, but it would be terrible if that happened and you had already told everyone about the likely.</p>
<p>Guard your likely letter with your life.</p>
<p>Say nothing–you will “likely” be rewarded for your compassion and modesty. Say nothing.</p>