<p>I am attending the University at Albany (Suny). Me and my requested roommate where moved into a "Forced Triple" today and was told that within 2 weeks the school would start to try and detriple all the students which looks highly unlikely due to the fact that the main dorm tower is under construction all year. Here is the problem,</p>
<p>After meeting our third roommate we found out immediately that he was bi-polar, he is messy, we have reason to believe he deals drugs out of the room and not the "soft" drugs... I have told my RA that we probably will not be getting along with our roommate and all he tells us is he will help us work things out. He comes in the room reeking of cigs, alcohol and drugs. My question is, what the hell am I suppose to do in this situation and please do not tell me to tell on him. Is there any possible way to force the university to De-Tripple our room so it will be just me and my requested roommate?</p>
<p>Thanks in advance, and if you have any questions for me please feel free to ask.</p>
<p>By “reeking of drugs” do you mean marijuana? If so, when I lived in a dorm, my roomie would get high with our neighbors regularly. She didn’t do it in the room, so it wasn’t any of my business. Same with cigarettes and booze. There’s not much you can do about it.
What evidence do you have that he’s dealing drugs? Have you seen drugs or little plastic baggies or bent spoons with lighters underneath. If you had anything solid, that’s one thing but all you’ve got is speculation that’s bot going to get you anywhere.
I doubt the school can be “forced” to detriple the room if they are so pressed for space that they are just cramming you into rooms by threes.
Just relax because you’ll probably be stuck together (for lack of a better word) for the semester unless someone willingly leaves or you find crack rocks stashed in the room.</p>
<p>Careful. At many schools, if roommate is dealing drugs and you know about it without reporting it, you can be liable too.</p>
Then there’s no advice I can offer you. “We don’t like each other” isn’t a valid excuse, especially if housing is at a premium.</p>
<p>Think how “he” feels, that he just got two roommates forced on him. I would give it a week or two, just to see if, after everything settles down, he may actually be a person you like. Who knows, he could intentionally be acting this way to try to get his room back to himself! Ask him to join you and your requested roommate for pizza or Chinese food or something, and just hang out. Discuss the room - how to make the most space or privacy areas, etc. Talk about majors, interests, etc. You never know…I’ve heard and read about people who hated each other at first that are now lifelong friends…</p>
<p>I agree with what cbug said.</p>
<p>At many schools, the smoking conflict can do the trick, especially if one of you can show that even the telltale scents aggravate some sensitivity. Not sure Albany is going to care as much as other schools, so you can also give it the week and then convince him he might be happier with roommates who share his interests. Sure, talk to the RA, just don’t go off accusing what you are not certain of.</p>
<p>Well I don’t think that you can “wreak of drugs” unless it’s marijuana. Last time I checked pills and powders don’t make you smell, so I will assume it’s marijuana.</p>
<p>Just because he is bi-polar doesn’t make him some sort of freak, and I’m sure he struggles with it more than you would ever know so try not to judge him based on that.</p>
<p>As for the neatness, talk to him and tell him that you would like him to try and keep his side a little cleaner. Even the smartest of students can be complete snobs and you yourself might find your things a bit disorganized at some point in the year.</p>
<p>Anyways, what reasons do you have to believe that he is dealing hard drugs out of the room? Unless you have something concrete than I would just rule that out.</p>
<p>He can legally smoke cigarettes and that is his choice so there isn’t much that can be done about that, and having roommates that drink is almost never an excuse for removal, because the majority of college freshman will do at some point.</p>
<p>I know you probably don’t want to hear this, but give it a chance for a while. He is probably feeling pretty strange himself, try and get to know him a bit and you might actually end up liking him. You would be surprised. If it doesn’t work out after a couple of weeks tha unfortunately YOU might have to do the transferring.</p>
<p>Ironically the ones who want a roommate kicked out are usually the ones who end up having to transfer to a different dorm because that’s their only course of action. I</p>