<p>Would love to hear an update about the wedding. Hope everything went well and you had a good time.</p>
<p>You’ll find it here, post #596</p>
<p><a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parent-cafe/1442513-wedding-etiquette-40.html[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parent-cafe/1442513-wedding-etiquette-40.html</a></p>
<p>Related to wedding gift-giving…DD and I are invited to a wedding in July. She is in grad school in another city and has (the bride displayed perfect etiquette…) received her own invitation. We will travel via air and stay overnight, possibly 2 nights, in a pricey city, so she isn’t likely to have money to buy a separate gift. Is it inappropriate for us to give a joint gift and sign the card, “Mom and DD”?</p>
<p>I just read the update. I was on vacation when it was posted. Congratulations. I don’t think it is a wedding (or a large family gathering) unless there is one blow up. As long as the honeymoon was fun. :)</p>
<p>^^^
“A Dothraki wedding without at least three deaths is deemed a dull affair.” From A Game of Thrones.</p>
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<p>Perfectly appropriate. </p>
<p>I don’t think it is at all unusual or inappropriate for family members or friends to “go in together” on a gift. (Maybe the “cover your plate” crowd wouldn’t like it, but hey. 
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<p>masslou, If you want the traditional answer, I <em>think</em> I’ve read that while it’s nicer for an adult guest to make the individual gesture (because it’s supposed to be the effort and thought that goes into it as much as the gift itself) , if circumstances dictate then it’s fine to go in on a group gift.
These days, group gifts are very common, however. I’ve gone in on many, though not usually for a wedding. </p>
<p>Cover the plate is a gross misrepresentation of etiquette. Gifts are always supposed to be voluntary and from the heart, period. However, if I were in that situation, and it was possible, I’d likely give something more generous than I would have on my own.</p>
<p>I think it depends on how you word the thank-you note. If you can finesse it to get across the idea that their presence was the present, go for it. This goes double for anyone who travelled to be there.</p>
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Not at all! Families often give joint presents for various reasons - one person can’t afford a present, or everyone chips in and buys the KitchenAid mixer instead of a few random pots, pans, and spatulas.</p>
<p>I stuck my older sister’s name on the bridal shower gift that I bought for my cousin - and my sister lives in a totally different state and wasn’t at the shower.</p>