@Nrdsb4 How very sad for your family, but how beautifully you all handled it. Is your DH his brother’s executor? Being embroiled in all that at this time of year would be dispiriting, although there is no good time.
We spent the weekend with our S and his GF in NH, arriving on Wednesday eve, and her parents flew up the next day, arriving around noon. We parents all stayed at a local B&B a few minutes walk away. I cooked, with assistance from GF. I brought two pies, pecan by request of GF and S, pumpkin for me. On Wednesday night, GF and I made a Chocolate Oblivion Torte, since her mother’s birthday was on Thanksgiving. I brought a raspberry coulis to serve with it, and we also whipped some cream.
We had turkey, cornbread stuffing with sausage and apple, mashed baked sweet potatoes with butter, bourbon, and nutmeg, creamed spinach, garlic mashed potatoes, onions braised in broth, and gravy of course. We planned to have salad also, but mutually agreed to have it for lunch the next day because there was so much food and we were all so stuffed.
I made (for the first time in years) and brought with me a pate de campagne, and everyone loved it. I also made smoked trout mousse, which we ate with sliced cucumbers and snow peas. I had the feeling that this would be the crowd for charcuterie. 
S and GF had smuggled some wonderful French cheeses into the country the last time they visited Montreal–the kind that aren’t let in because the dairy isn’t pasteurized–one of which was my favorite, so we had heavenly lunches.
We had a great time. We love each other’s kids, the GF’s parents were interesting and lots of fun. We share the same politics (GF and my H are the real radicals, LOL) and we just had a blast. I found out that the GF’s family has been much more forward in checking S out as a prospective SIL. One relative gave him a baby to hold, to see how he could handle it! I would never dare be so forward. I loved it!
Just a great time.