<p>calmom: I wonder what you’d think of my brother who earned his first BA in philosophy and his second in teaching and went on to become a fireman. Did he waste his education? Our mom was an educated, widowed, working mom. She was absolutely fine with it.</p>
<p>SAH moms are exercising one of their “options,” just as you are with your career choices. We have our own inerests and goals. Our relationships with our husbands are the strongest partnerships you’ll find. Neither is counting to see who brought in what to the family, be it money or talents. We bring our strengths and use them in tandem to nurture the family. No agonizing or resentment at my house.</p>
<p>Allmusic: “Simply mothering” is a very telling comment. I also fail to follow your logic when you claim that your d would be pigeonholed into a June Cleaver role and have no options if you had been a SAHM. In my case, an excellent private H.S. is ONLY possible for my d because I am available to drive her there and back. As are the various music/arts/and enrichment activities she takes part in. (Little brother, too.) It works for us. Plenty rewarding, but different strokes for different folks, I guess. My kids are aware of my degrees and career achievements. They’re very happy that I put all that on hold for them.</p>