I don’t know that I’d automatically label it as “lack of interest”…could it be that they are worried about offending you by asking questions?
I can’t imagine NOT asking a lot of questions about my child’s day from a family member, child care staff or anyone. Not in a quizzing day but because I would want to hear highlights of my child’s day, be aware of any eating/sleeping summaries for the evening, etc. Questions don’t have to do with trust!
Not only that but I think asking questions shows interest in YOUR day and supports you!
I would keep sending little updates, occasional photos, share funny moments via text, etc. Not multiple a day but here and there.
This is my mindset. I do appreciate the other comments about the parents trusting us. I just have a hard time imagining not wanting to hear about my child’s day. I love hearing about the baby trying new foods or activities. I even love hearing about the other kids’ dogs.
I usually watch GD at D’s house, but I had her at my house today. She’s been working on rolling back to front for awhile. Guess what day she picked to do it?! I am not telling her parents … she kept rolling pretty much all day, so hopefully she’ll be so tired that she has to work at it and doesn’t look like a pro at home tonight.
I just got back from visiting my new granddaughter for the first time–she is now 4 months old. (Waited till we were all vaccinated.) Loved it and so wish I lived closer.
@kelsmom I just got a text from my D today. It’s a video of GD working like crazy to roll over from back to front. It cracked me up because she looks so serious and she keeps trying.
18 mo old GD really seems to get the video chats. Today she waved at each of us and went over and got (without prompting) her hand/foot painting she did at daycare to show us! We will be going to visit in July- it will be interesting if she gets that we are the ones on the chat almost daily. We last saw her in September 2020.
@rockymtnhigh2 GD will absolutely know you are the same person for online! My 22 month old GD will ask to FaceTime with us often, and my daughter calls almost daily. When she calls my number and my husband doesn’t appear on the screen, my GD says he is sleeping, although she just this week has said he is at work!
While both GDs like out of state, and prior to the pandemic I wouldn’t see them as often as I would have liked, FaceTime and phone cameras has been a blessing. My son doesn’t chat as often as my daughter, but enough than GD knows who we are.They can to visit last month, and while picking them up at the airport, GD ran down the sidewalk to me; can’t get any better than that!
Every time my GD (almost 2) would visit she liked playing with our coasters with pictures on them. We got her a memory game from Pinhole Press (Shutterfly also makes them) with pictures of the family (and the various dogs in the family). She loves to play with them and it helps her remember all her aunts, uncles and grandparents. When they FaceTime with me she always asks to see Grandpa and our dog.
I’ve been on CC for years (don’t post a ton) but have always checked in on this thread because I love anything and everything related to babies!
I can’t tell anyone IRL yet, but my S and DIL are expecting again after having a miscarriage last fall. They are thrilled but SO nervous. My heart is full but we are also very anxious for them. She is only 8 weeks along, so it is still early. She had her first ultrasound yesterday and everything looks perfect - baby measured at exactly 8 weeks, heartbeat at 167, etc. It was a huge relief but I don’t think they will relax for another month, if at all.
Please send all your positive baby thoughts our way! Fingers crossed that I can “officially” post on this thread in the upcoming months
I got on a plane yesterday for travel to visit S’s family in FL for the first visit since a brief meet up for outdoor lunch last summer when they were in TN visiting DIL’s family. Oldest granddaughter is now 3 1/2 and so much fun and it was awesome to meet the 7 month old who is such a happy baby. She seems so easy going compared to D’s 14 month old who is either over the moon happy or a screaming hellion demanding more food (and she is fed more than adequately). 3 very different personalities, but all lovable and cherished. Feeling grateful today! I’m at S’s house until Tuesday, so enough time to read lots of stories to the oldest and to hold the new one. D’s baby is not a snuggler and S’s oldest wasn’t too snuggly, so I’m going to enjoy holding S’s newest addition who seems to like being held for a little while.
DH and I have two DDs, and we were older parents (married 15 years when we had our first, and DDs were born when we turned 38 and 40). DD1 and her H wanted a baby right away; now she is expecting #3 and she is 27 years old. DD2 has a serious BF but is one who enjoys her sister’s kids but has other life agenda for a long time.
SIL’s parents have 2 sons and will have 5 grands - 2 girls and 3 boys (one girl due Aug and one boy due early Sept, but our DD’s son probably will come in Aug IMHO).
Super important to SIL’s parents, although due to his dad’s physical condition the parents cannot travel. They enjoy the facetime chats and visits at their place.
We absolutely were not ‘pushing’ for grandkids and I actually had a lunch with DD and talked to her about having a few years just with her H. They wanted a baby right away.
My H’s mother asked me for a grandchild on our wedding day! Then brought it up on every phone conversation until we wrote a letter, and then tried to bring it up indirectly. So both sets of our parents were shocked when we announced it at my parent’s 40th wedding anniversary celebration.
We will be getting a third granddaughter and fourth grandchild in November. We have three sons so I am just laughing at all these little girls coming into my life!!
When I am on duty, if I pick up the baby from her crib before the time D1 would let me know. She gives me very strict instructions on when to feed the baby and when the baby needs to go to bed. D1 and her H say I can’t be trusted with sticking with the schedule. When I hear her make noise I just want to pick her up.
When my kids were little, they were put on a schedule too, so I can’t really complain. GD at 4 months sleeps from 7pm-7am and take good naps during the day. I just spent 4 days with her while at a family wedding. She knows me now. She is very happy to see me in the morning when I pick her up for her first feed (maybe she is just hungry).
It has been quiet here for awhile; any new grand babies?
I have to brag about my youngest that will be 2 in 2 weeks. On the way home from daycare yesterday, which is at my daughter’s synagogue, GD starts singing the Hamotzi; this is the blessing over the bread. This child does not speak full sentences yet, although can combine 5 or so words at times. Yet here she was singing the entire prayer; some words were not understandable, but the tune was there! She went through the entire prayer with me on FaceTime last night, and of course added Yeah and clapped when done The funny thing was, my daughter had no idea they recited the Hamotzi, although I have heard it when I have watched their Shabbat on Fridays.
That is my brag for the day! What is going on with all the other grandchildren out there?
Going to drive to visit GD (1 1/2) in Seattle in 3 weeks and D2 and SO are coming at the same time. D1 is expecting in September! This is a happy time. We are getting ready to come visit again in September.
My heart is aching already. My son’s post on FB: " For the past 8 months or so, C’s grandmother, [my name], has been commuting from home every day (45 - 60 min each way!) to watch her during the day while S and I have been working from home. She did this during the worst of COVID so that we didn’t have to put C in daycare just yet. As things are finally starting to open up and we’re both vaccinated, we’re finally going to start daycare for C. Today is the last day of grandma daycare.
Gran taught her fun games, new sounds and words, and sang and read to her every day – we could hear this from our home offices. She got to see C change and grow so much, including being able to see some of her earliest steps and hear her first words! Gran showing up every morning was one of the highlights of C’s day and was always welcome with smiles, laughter and clapping. We’re going to miss having her at the house every day, and will never really be able to show just how much we appreciated the support this year. This has truly been a blessing, and we will forever be able to tell C that her grandma helped take care of her and raise her during the first year of her life, and kept her and us safe.
We all love you, Mom. Thank you for everything!"
This is a group with which I can share how difficult this is. I am going to miss her so much. This has been one of the sweetest and most special things in my life. But alas, life goes on. And I certainly won’t miss the commute. But she is so dear to me. I adore her. Thanks for listening.
Oh, I feel for you! I have been watching my GD at D’s house since her return to work at the beginning of April. Before that, I went over three times a week for a few hours to help out. I am secretly pleased that the good daycares have long waiting lists … I am in no hurry to stop watching my little sweetie.
When I hear her make noise I just want to pick her up.
The funny thing was, my daughter had no idea they recited the Hamotzi, although I have heard it when I have watched their Shabbat on Fridays.