<p>Well, kinda . . . </p>
<p>You did say that the conduct of him and his friends was “appalling.” That “their goal in life [was] to skirt the rules.” This does seem to suggest that not only are they of no better quality than any other college student but that they are WORSE than any other college student. Unless, that is, you think ALL college students are appalling.</p>
<p>And you did say the “all” [now you may have meant merely “all” of your daughter’s mid acquantances] adhere to a certain quality. In any event that seems to cast a pretty wide net.</p>
<p>Now, having said all that, I can tell you, based on my exposure to many mids and incidents over the past four years, I have become aware of more disappointing “incidents” than I would have thought would occur at a service academy. BUT, I also believe that the incidence per 100 students [or how it might be measured] is much less than one might encounter at a civilian college.</p>
<p>So, did your daughter encounter [decide to date] a mid who is “appalling?” Apparently so. I can tell you that our experience with the GREAT majority of mids, in fact, almost EVERY mid I have ever met has been exactly polar opposite to what you describe. They have been ALL very considerate, polite, thoughtfule, honest, and, yes, moral.</p>
<p>Mids are like other groups: You choose with whome you care to associate and you become stained or praised depending upon the friends you choose. In other words: You play in the mud, you gonna dance with some pigs.</p>
<p>I would have NO reservation about encouraging my daughter to attend the NA. Are there bad examples? Absolutely. Is the NA perfect? Absolutely not. Based on my exposure to mids, however, they are NOT like every other college student.</p>