<p>Well, indeed, we can agree to agree on one particular point [which I would guess UD would disagree]: the REAL question is why the daughter is going out with an “appalling” young man.
Now we all know that young women get attracted to dangerous young men for a variety of reasons. Add a white uniform to the equation–as well as an athletic body–and, well, the mix is to say the least: explosive.</p>
<p>Is there much mom can do about that? By the time it happens, probably not. That course was set well before the two shall, uh, began to mix.</p>
<p>So, while the young man and his friends may be appalling, I think the very valid question WhistlePig asks [for once] is about why your young woman continues to go out with this vulgar, partying, lay-about who fails to represent the academy very well. </p>
<p>Now, just to clarify, before you come back with both barrels loaded: Is an “appalling” , vulgar, partying, lay-about of a young man “bad” or not?</p>