Several times a week in your 60s?! And this is less often than when you were younger?
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Nothing stirs a woman’s libido more than a man doing housework without being asked.
Or holding a baby. A man taking care of a baby is swoon worthy.
My husband has always been good about housework and he adores children - two huge attractions right there!
The dilemma for post-menopausal women is that they tend not to have babies.
He must get plenty… 
FWIW, many men have the same dilemma. It seems awkward for women to discuss; it’s damn near impossible for men to discuss. And I’m not talking about ED. I’m talking about libido, which Viagra can’t fix.
I guess when anyone reaches a certain age, infidelity is no matter an issue. Still, there is a woman in my office who flirts with me, I think. I’d guess she’s about 65. I’m quite chubby, and she’s quite not. I don’t know what to think.
I hate the thought of women just lying there waiting for the mess to get over. Most men would not do the same, I suspect. But we are socialized differently.
Bottom line, we all have different schedules, but it seems OK to talk about one, and less OK to talk about the other. It’s a pity either way, but I wish we could discuss it more openly. I mean, in 2016 its easier to come out as gay than it is to come out as “no longer interested.” And that sucks.
H and I both agree (and we do talk about it) that quality trumps quantity these days. My desire has gone down since menopause, but I think his has too. But now we really enjoy our time together. We take it slow and really connect on an emotional as well as physical level. So, we may only be having sex once or twice a week, but it seems to be a mutually agreed upon thing. For reference, 20 years ago it was probably 3-4 times a week, but hurried and furtive as we had young kids and no privacy!
I’m chuckling about what students on this website must think. The thing most horrifying to a teenager is the thought of their parents having sex (weren’t they all brought by the stork?)
My S jokes that his parents have had sex twice (2 kids). I think that’s what he wants to believe.
Thank you all for your thoughtful responses. To say this is an awkward and almost taboo subject is an understatement
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I guess when you think about aging, I knew things would slow down, but I didn’t realize how much I would miss having a strong libido. One of my friends, a recent widow in her sixties, met and married again and tells me it’s like she is in her twenties again. I can’t imagine intimacy with anyone else ever again! But also as a woman I want to embrace sexuality, especially since my husband always makes me feel desirable. I just wish my hormones were in sync with that.
This thread makes me sad. My libido’s stronger than it was when I was younger, and tired out from work and kids. Only now I’m widowed, with nobody to share it with. And all these women here who aren’t interested in what I would be so grateful to have again, with partners not getting what they need…Life’s just not fair, for any of us.
So, Lassie3–how did your widow friend meet her man? 
Buenavista, she met him the old fashioned way…on an Internet dating site lol!
That’s great, Lassie3–give her my congratulations!
My life with DH parallels yours!