I think if couples want to make sure people just dress up, the dress code should just be: Suits/Cocktail.
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S and DIL suggested tropical dressy or similar. Only one person wore slippers, and otherwise everyone looked fine. Lots of aloha shirts and florals with some fancier outfits.
Thank you for the reports on black tie optional. Iâm not going to worry about it. I do have a long dress that I might wear anyway. Itâs very comfortable! Suits for everyone else and my momâs cocktail dress should be fine.
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Ok, I need help!
My daughter is getting married. Destination wedding. In June. On a tropical island in the Caribbean.
If people remember on another thread, I posted 2 dresses. One was blue and the other orange and pink.
The blue dress that I loved the print didnât fit well. The orange and pink dress, I felt like an Easter egg in. I wasnât comfortable in a dress that bright. I like bright colors but that was a lot. That dress is now sold out in my size and I returned it.
The dilemma. My daughter, I feel, misunderstands the rules. She says the dress can contain NO WHITE! No white background, no white!
I need a dress in a petite size that contains no white! For a wedding. In June. On a tropical island.
This is the same dress as the orange and pink one, this print one popped up in my size. Itâs on its way to me. But I think it breaks the no white rule
https://www.anthropologie.com/shop/the-somerset-maxi-dress2?color=097&size=3702
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That is adorable! You need to ask her. Did she say why no white in the dress?
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The question of how much white is too much is extensively discussed online. But no one says not an inch of white so your daughter is off base there. The dress you linked seems perfectly acceptable.
I think the âno more than 25% whiteâ guideline is good.
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I would agree that no one should wear a white dress, but the bride. Iâve never heard of no white in a dress.
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Caveat reminder that I am the one who okâd my mother to wear a long white beaded gown to my wedding. (Because she called me in tears from a phone booth in the pouring rain claiming it was absolutely the only possible dress she could find.)
Edit to add, is your daughter deliberately putting road blocks in your way?
I love that print and I think itâs a great tropic MOB option. Maybe sheâs thinking a white background isnât okay.
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I think my daughter heard from someone that you shouldnât wear white and since she is not fashionable and takes things literally (sheâs an engineer) she took that to be no white.
I didnât show her the dress I linked but another one that I didnât like. Her comment was too white. This is the dress
https://www.anthropologie.com/shop/the-katerina-button-front-dress5?color=012&size=3702
I was afraid to show her the dress linked above. She said the other 2 were fine, why didnât I wear one of those?
The other somewhat issue is the MOG already has her dress. Didnât say anything to me or even act like she wasnât supposed to pick a dress before the MOB. I was given no idea of color or style or anything. Iâm in the dark.
Some things with this wedding are so weird.
I think the dress you showed her has a lot more white- the new one on its way to you is so pretty And the white is subtle. Maybe send it to her- you obviously want to honor her wishes but you need to like what you wear as well.
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It is hard to avoid white!
The tie dye takes it just outside of white. Daybreak Maxi Dress - Coldwater Creek
If you want to splurge, and thereâs a matching shawl. Ivory, not white, unless thatâs also disallowed.
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I LOVE the Komarov dress!!!
Its beautiful! But Iâm afraid itâs too fancy for a beach wedding.
What do others think?
The short gauze dress is a possibility for the rehearsal dinner.
Cute dresses!
What kind of dress is your daughter wearing to the beach wedding (unless thatâs also a secret 
)? Are there attendants and if so do you know their dresses? If she has a longish fancy dress, as MOB you should be fine in the Komarov. Really, if MOG had complete leeway, go with what you like and just tell daughter you donât want to bother her so youâve made your decision.
Does she know of the other two dresses from earlier, one doesnât fit right and the other is too Easter egg?
Edit to add hereâs the matching shawl: Pastel Dream Shawl by Komarov - Coldwater Creek
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@VeryHappy any ideas??
I think the Komarov dress is beautiful and perfect for a tropical wedding esp for the mother of the bride. I like it quite a bit better than either of the Anthropology dresses you brought in. I do not think it is too fancy.
I am in the school that thinks that all white or all off-white dresses are reserved for only the bride at a wedding. This dress doesnât fit into that category even if seen from a distance.
Can you have a gentle discussion with your daughter about some white in a dress before showing her a picture or an actual dress you have chosen? Why do you not want any white? âWould you rather have dark or bright colors; I feel that would take the visual attention from youâ. I would like to wear something I feel comfortable in and almost everything I find like that has some white. Light colors seem to go with a tropical feel. I will not wear something that is mostly all whiteâŠ.
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Yes I sent her the pictures of the two dresses I shared here. She said they were fine.
Daughter is wearing a Grace Loves Lace dress. Itâs very pretty. Itâs a bit more traditional than her usual style.
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I agree. I have one Komarov dress that has gotten a ton of use. It also travelled well to a faraway wedding we attended.
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I have to say having never been to a destination wedding a bit confused about what I should wear as MOB.
My daughter has not been that helpful as sheâs not into fashion and is busy with other things than my dress.
A cotton maxi dress while very cute is not something I have ever worn.