The One Thing I Hate About College

College Life
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<p>Yesterday I officially finished my first year in college. This year has been very rough for me because I had terrible roommates for half of my first semester and had to move which caused me to not do so well in classes. For the first month that I was in school, I didn’t have any friends and I felt like I wasn’t supposed to have gone away at school. One day, I met someone and he and I have been incredibly close ever since. He is truly my best friend and I know that I would never have been able to survive my freshman year without him.</p>

<p>So, about a month ago I found out a day before we were supposed to communicate with housing that my best friend couldn’t afford to live on campus next year. I’m really stuck now because I’m in a room that is kind of off campus and I’m by myself. This is not at all what I want because I know that it will cause me to close up and become very depressed. I honestly have no other friends that I can live with. Everyone is either in a full room or not living on campus. I’ve tried to get an apartment with several different people but the plans always fell through. I know that I need to change my living situation but I’m afraid to go back next semester because I can’t stand change. I’m used to living with my best friend and now he’s going to be living an hour away at home which means I’ll hardly get to see him. I’d be lucky if I saw him once a week and that really bothers me since I’m used to being with him everyday. </p>

<p>On top of this, I’m having major issues dealing with being away from him and my other friends for summer. I know that I can text and use Facebook and Skype but it just isn’t the same. I don’t feel like I have friends anymore in my hometown and I’m used to always having my best friend with me but now he lives hours away. I just don’t really know what to do with myself right now. I’ve been applying for jobs and trying to find a place to volunteer but that isn’t going to fill the void of my friend not being here. I just don’t know what to do. I just hate that college allows you to meet some of the best people you’ve ever met but then they live far away from you. It just doesn’t seem fair. </p>

<p>I’m sorry if I sound like I’m whining, I’m just very upset with this whole situation right now.</p>

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<p>No advice on the living situation, but I agree completely regarding the friendship issue. I have made so many amazing friends this semester and it is going to be quite difficult to not see them all over summer. But I guess that’s the beauty of true friendship… Even time apart can’t break it.</p>

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<p>I go to a community college in a small midwest town, in a state I didn’t grow up in. Ergo, a majority of the students have the small-town mindset and have no interest in meeting new people. They also probably won’t be graduating, or ever leaving the area, if statistics are to be believed (college has a low grad rate, and even lower transfer rate. In the 50 yrs the college has been open, about seven people have transferred OOS).</p>

<p>So I have no friends, either. I throw myself into my job, my schoolwork, and any hobbies. Distracting yourself might not be the healthiest of ways to cope this summer, but it works and guarantees results in your studying. Good luck.</p>

<p>Have you thought about joining a club? That might put you in touch with people outside of class.</p>

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<p>My sympathies. But If possible you need to talk to a therapist about co-dependency issues. In the meantime, try making casual friends. A cup of coffee or maybe the occasional meal at the cafeteria. Everybody you meet doesn’t have to be your new best friend but they can be an acquaintance. GL</p>