<p>We are considering a couple of options for my 13 year old 8th grade son.
- Having my son finish the year in 7th grade at an all boy boarding school
- Having my son do 8th grade again in Sept. at an all boy boarding school
- Having my son finish 8th grade at an all boy boarding school
- Have my son start 9th grade in Sept. at whatever H.S. he gets into</p>
<p>Here is a little background on our situation my son use to go to a very small Catholic school was that was all boys since he was 5 years old. He was a pretty immature boy and babied by his teachers and my family (he is an only child) at his old school they almost let him skip a grade in 6th grade since he was so advanced but decided not to since he was so immature. Unfortunately the school closed and he had to go to a new Catholic school for his 8th grade year. This school the class size is much larger and is coed. Within the first week of school a girl start taking interest in him, she sat right next to him but has since been moved to a couple of desk away. He goes to an after school program not at the school that she doesnt go to. We didnt find out about this in school romance till late in November almost December, much to our horror since we feel that it is inappropriate for 13 years olds dating and cant believe that the school allowed this relationship to start. His birthday is during the summer so he is younger than a lot of the children in his class now and the girl that likes him is almost 8 months older than him. His State tests is all way above grade level in fact some are college level.</p>
<p>Much to our surprise this year his grades start significantly falling and his first report card was all 70s and one failure, we have since got him tutors that he goes to everyday single day. We just got another progress report card the day before the holiday break and now he is failing four classes. The teachers say that he is distracted the whole day talking or trying to talk to this little girl. I have talked to the girls mother who is much more lenient with this relationship even though her daughter is also starting to fail classes. She has agreed that they shouldnt see each other outside of school but still thinks they should hang out during group events and can talk every night on the phone (which we think is inappropriate and have tried to ban). He also hasnt been handing in homework he has been leaving the work in school and not even taking it with him so the tutors cant work with him. Approximately every 3rd assignment he gets a zero on. As far as studying for test one in every four test he is unprepared for due to not taking good notes or just not writing that he has a test. His SSAT scores were above average but not that high. We are majorly concerned that he wont be able to get into a good H.S. I know his teachers especially his homeroom teachers are trying to work with him however they do not seemed concerned enough and feel hell get into a H.S. school. I have begged them to send me and his tutors all his assignments and testing schedule to no avail. I dont think switching schools in the area will make any difference since I feel hell try and see this girl or start dating another girl. Also I know that the class size and more independent teaching styles have largely impacted his grades. He has midterms in two weeks and we dont know what to do. We cant guarantee high grades on the midterms. We are thinking to pull him out before the second report card since we dont want a bunch of low grades on his records or to wait to the end of the year and he have to repeat anyway due to failing so many subjects Sadly money is something to factor in and we have spent way too much on tutors that havent seemed to help much.
Any advice?</p>