<p>Now that is interesting. I didn’t think of that. I expect to be treated better by someone I have sex with and maybe that is expecting too much when it isn’t someone that I know well. So she becomes a cautionary tale. Men, if you see her avoid at all costs. Maybe that is what she should be.</p>
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<p>I think this is true and you know what else biased me, the pictures of her. In every one of them I saw she looks like she is trying to seduce the camera. I can’t stand it when people can’t turn off the flirting. People like that don’t want to know you on any other level. Maybe it shouldn’t be so surprising when someone like that treats you so horribly by putting you in her PowerPoint presentation as a rating. Until this story became bigger I’m willing to bet it never even have occurred to her that she was doing something wrong.</p>
<p>true pea… now to add to the consequences of sexual activity we tell our children about
std
pregnancy
legal ramifications, statutory rape
and now… watch for your name on the internet!</p>
<p>Pea, I think we all have that expectation – to be treated decently by our sex partners. But when they willingly had sex with her, these guys were taking the risk that she might not treat them decently. As well as risking she might get pg, that they could get an STD, etc.</p>
<p>I’m guessing they all talked about her on the team/teams. You can’t sleep with a half-dozen guys on a sports team and word not get out that you make yourself readily available after a few drinks.</p>
<p>And just to be clear: I think her thesis is a gross violation of the guys’ privacy.</p>
<p>YDS, sorry but that is the funniest thing I have read on this thread. I’m pretty sure the guys weren’t worried about if she was going to respect them in the morning. I’m amused when the antics of one girl documenting the performance standards of some horny guys merits so much media attention. Maybe guys will think twice before freely sharing their goods with any skirt that comes along, doubt it though.</p>
<p>Getting back to Tucker Max (law school grad of Duke - mentioned in post #44), wasn’t he sued by a former acquaintance who tried to get him to stop mentioning her name, using her photo, and talking about their former sex life in his blog? </p>
<p>I remember hearing that she won, but then a higher court threw the case out. Not that I’m trying to drum up sympathy for any of these types…</p>
<p>promiscuous girl meets promiscuous boys meets the internets - this may be the first of such incidents but certainly not the last…</p>
<p>i do wonder, though, will something like this have an impact on this young woman’s ability to get a job? would you hire someone like her - someone’s whose supposedly “private” sex ranking was all over cyberspace?</p>
<p>On every campus-
Urban Dictionary- “Laxtitute” a. someone who sleeps with lacrosse players frequently b. a girl who hos herself out to lacrosse players</p>
<p>My point exactly, is there an urban dictionary for the lacrosse players who boink anything that is breathing?
Ugh, didn’t think so. I am so sick of double standards.</p>
<p>I have spoken with my son about sex and privacy. On my long list of reasons why it’s smart to wait is that you want to know someones character before the relationship becomes sexual.</p>
<p>I agree it is unseemly to name ones sexual partners but it’s not illegal and it’s not a lie. I certainly don’t understand the idea that this woman could be sued.</p>
<p>What does a guy have to do to get used in this way? I’m asking for research purposes, of course. I want to better understand the role of the victim and what-not.</p>
<p>Are there similar terms to laxtitute for other sports? What am I missing by never having dated a lax player? I didn’t know they were supposed to be so hot.</p>
<p>The letters to the Editor were really pretty funny. The Panhellenic council and lots of sorority officers all signed a letter pointing out that Karen Owen was not in a sorority and objecting to the term sorositute. There was also a letter which thought that the reference to Harriet Tubman was demeaning.</p>
<p>For years, society has been trying to change the attitude of “blame the victim”. Many attitudes and many laws have been changed in keeping with a more enlightened attitude.
A woman’s past, or even a prostitute’s past generally cannot be brought up in a rape trial for example. Even a husband can be convicted of rape of his wife now, which generally wasn’t true years ago.
I think the newer attitude is a good healthy one.</p>
<p>I am shocked at Ga-mom’s attitude here. Blaming the victim. Guessing that the guys may have talked about the girl, that makes it ok in her book. Guessing that the guys maybe would have done the same thing if they were capable of operating Powerpoint. Knowing that the guys are hot for females makes it ok to have this thesis. I would prob agree most Lacrosse boys want to boink every skirt, as she puts it. I think most college boys in general feel the same way. But a desire to boink, does not excuse a female’s bad behavior. THERE is a shocking double standard. Blaming the victim if the victim is a guy.</p>
<p>I don’t see these guys as victims in any way. I am however extremely offended that the author that wrote the piece in the Chronicle says they were raped. The whole thing boils down to college kids hooking up for random sex and a few unflattering things said about some guys. Boo hoo, cry me a river. Maybe they’ll keep it in their pants if they don’t want it talked about. These were one night stands, not long term relationships. I don’t see the two parties of a one time hookup having any implied expectation of privacy.</p>