<p>B.-</p>
<p>Good story, but all your kids look great! Are you talking about K? or S?</p>
<p>Even with guys, it makes a parent feel better when they suddenly start caring more for what they look like as an individual apart from the typical HS clone. Many times, when they can’t fit the stereotype, they withdraw into Goth or other “alternate” stereotypes.</p>
<p>-B.</p>
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seole~ I have actually seen this quite a bit with either 1.) girls who, like my D, do not fit the tiny teenage mold, or 2.) girls who have, as you mentioned, developed a bit earlier than their peers. I am so glad that you have come to be more comfortable with your body type and are dressing in a more fun (and colorful!) way! It really DOES make a difference in how you feel! Incidentally, I LOVE black…have ALWAYS loved black, just because…well, because I LOVE it! The VAST majority of my clothing is black, but I’ve tried to branch out just a <em>little</em>! <em>lol</em></p>
<p>late~
<strong><em>ROFLMAO</em></strong> OMG, I think we’d get along GREAT!!! Now, my girls are pretty good about indulging my often “interesting” combinations of clothing…but, I guess they’re pretty used to their mom being, ummmm, her “own person” in LOTS of ways! I have several pairs of oddly colored boots…a lavendar UGG pair and bright blue and kiwi green Doc Marten pairs. Unfortunately, one of the pups just chewed up the kiwi pair, so what could I do? I bought a new pair, patent leather in cherry red. My daughters may NEVER go anyplace with me again!!! :eek:</p>
<p>seole and LTS…Guess what? I have asked my D if she’ll “model” some of her stuff for y’all, and she’s SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO excited! 
I’ll upload the pics into a yahoo album and then pm you the link, O.K.??? We’ll try to get that done sometime today!</p>
<p>dig~
Awwwwwwwwwww, thanks SO much! I am talking about S. K is the oldest D, but S is six inches taller than her older sis! I certainly didn’t mean to insinuate that S is anything but absolutely lovely–as her mom, I ALWAYS have thought she’s a beauty–my post is more about how SHE felt about HERSELF. I think she has felt a bit self-conscious in recent years because she is taller than her mom and her older sister, as tall as her dad (he’s a short-ish 5’8"), and almost as tall as her older brother! And, I think you are SO right about kids who have difficulty fitting the stereotype. It has been my observation for many years that those who do not as readily fit in make a pretty significant effort NOT to after awhile and often go to another extreme.</p>
<p>~berurah</p>
<p>B,</p>
<p>Congratulations on teaching your daughter such valuable lessons such as:</p>
<p>Being true to her own self</p>
<p>Knowing how to pick the best clothes her her body type</p>
<p>Being comfortable and happy in the skin that you are in</p>
<p>Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes</p>
<p>knowing how to thing out of the box </p>
<p>Developing your own individual style</p>
<p>Having a healthy sense of self especially now when we find so many young women feeling pressured to be a size 00. </p>
<p>Explain to me when did it ever become ok to be categorized as being less than nothing (but that could be a whole nother thread)?</p>
<p>I don’t even know what a size 00 would be?
My oldest is about a size 4-petite and as far as I can tell knows little about what looks good on her- is mostly content to wear jeans and t shirts or skirts and tshirts. I have been trying to subtly suggesting different clothes for a recent college graduate- but I think that she thinks it is anti feminist to care about clothes.
For a high school student to develop her own style with out being an Alloy/urban outfitters clone is very precocious. Your daughter sounds like a great role model fo rthe other girls</p>
<p>My younger daughter has the body type that I always longed for 5’7"- about 110 lbs- 32A instead of her sisters and mine D cups.
It is really funny to me, that she really likes fashion, for years she barely would even brush her hair, let alone let me brush it, she wore the same boys shorts and tank tops for a year, never liked pink or purple and from the time she was born till about age 13, had worn a skirt or dress maybe 5 times in her life!</p>
<p>But now, although she looks like her peers as far as I can tell ( at least she keeps her tummy covered), she has a subscription to Vogue, and always looks quite stylish.- but even she is a size 4- I don’t think that a size 00 could be a healthy size for most girls, unless of course those designers have made all their sizes smaller to assuage egos, the way that a womens size 10 is larger than a womens size 10 used to be.</p>
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<p>One of those we must really be getting old moments. </p>
<p>Remember the Special K commericials and diet Jello when they used to talk about being the perfect size 10?</p>
<p>Someone who is a size 10 now is probably considered fat :eek:</p>
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My understanding of this size is that it is basically a junior size for girls who could still fit easily into children’s sizes, but want the style/fashion of an older girl…My D’s best friend is only 14, but aside from height, still has a body more like a child’s. I think the 0’s, 1’s, etc. are for girls like those. This same friend is the one who hands down clothes to my 11-year-old, who is built very much like D’s best friend. In fact, my youngest D, who is going into sixth grade next year, still fits very comfortably into a child’s size 7 for skirts, pants, etc.</p>
<p>~berurah</p>
<p>I would have loved to have had that acutally when I was a teen-
I didn’t start develping till I was about 15 and I kept growing in height till I was 22 ( although I stopped just short of 5’3")
and I remember being so embarrased looking in the junior sizes and being steered to the childrens by the “helpful” clerk, when I was in jr high and high school. This was when of course, childrens clothes actually looked like childrens clothes, instead of mini hookers, there was a significant taste difference between girls and juniors.
5 was about the smallest at the time for juniors and it was still too big . I wanted to look like I shopped on Carnaby street, not in the kiddy dept :o</p>
<p>Congrats to your D, Berurah! That’s a wonderful story. My younger D is built a lot differently from my older one as well. She is a softball player, and as of now prefers boys basketball shorts and shirts as a daily mode of dress. I’m sure that they are comfy for her, and her friends all dress similarly, but I think I might just take the initiative and buy her some clothes that I think will expand her horizons! Hats off to both you and your stylin’ D!</p>
<p>Way to go! (Make sure to put it on the college applications! ;))</p>
<p>My younger D is a gymnast. Barely breaks 5". Very broad shoulders. Cannons for arms. No waist. Huge thighs, and calf muscles. Try finding jeans in Size Minus 1.</p>
<p>Loved this story, berurah!
I’ve got a size 00 18 yo- it’s a whole other set of problems even finding that size sometimes, and at prom season it’s a hoot- she either had a choice of looking like Tinkerbell, or a very small prostitute.
She finally borrowed a suitable dress from an older friend who had shopped alot more- relief for me, a non-shopper of a mom!</p>
<p>Berurah, I just got back and saw the pictures, she is simply STUNNING, and I love her smile, and her hair - oh and her eyes - she’d look good in anything!!!</p>
<p>How can you even bear to think of letting her EVER go off to college lol!!!</p>
<p>Berurah,</p>
<p>I’m so glad I just came across this thread!!! Your kids are most fortunate to have a mom who is sensitive to their self esteems and so CLEVER about handling delicate issues. The help you’ve given your d in feeling good about her body is just priceless. As one of your peers, I give you a ‘good mom’ award!!</p>
<p>andi <3</p>
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<p>I have been known to arrive with 2 different shoes, too. I have also arrived with slippers on because I quickly ran out of the house without looking at what I had on my feet. </p>
<p>(See, if I had some girls, they would give me a “heads up” before I left the house… but with a house of boys, no one tells me that I have a curler left in the back of my hair, or my shirt is inside out, or my shirt is misbuttoned or…)</p>
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OMG!!! Jl, can you IMAGINE if latetoschool, you and I went out to breakfast??? YIKES!!! :eek: Look at the bright side…people would give us LOTS of space, and we could really whoop it up and have a GREAT time!!!</p>
<p>D says to tell you that she used to purposefully wear mismatched socks and shoes, and that she’s outgrown it, and YOU CAN TOO!!! :D</p>
<p>~b.</p>
<p>when I arrive with 2 mismatched shoes, I tell people that I love them so much that I have another pair just like them at home.</p>
<p>(I know, old joke)</p>
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jl~ Well, that may be an old joke, but my D is NOT old, so now, SHE’S sitting here <strong><em>ROFL</em></strong>!!! Now, she wants to come and visit you (and bring her girlie stuff…and she has LOTS of it!!!)</p>
<p>~b.</p>
<p>Yea… girlie stuff… I need some pink in my life!!! </p>
<p>Come on over! I’m not southern but I sure know how to go about fixin some southern hospitality :)</p>
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Then, we’re fixin’ ready to come over!!! How’s THAT for a Texas saying…haven’t heard “fixin’ ready to” since I left ol’ Tejas!!! ;)</p>
<p>~b.</p>
<p>Try being a size 0 AND 5’7". It’s not easy to find ANYTHING that fits. Berurah, I’ve always been so jealous of girls who are big enough to wear chunky jewelry and more bold styles – it was interesting to read that those girls are self-conscious too. I think all teenage girls must feel awkward at times. I’m lucky to have a mom who works hard to boost my self-esteem, like you did for your daughter. A mother who tells you you’re beautiful is, beyond a doubt, the single most important thing for a girl. Bravo on a job well done.</p>