Honest question, no judgement I promise - why does that annoy you? Just trying to understand because I no doubt will sometimes let a term of endearment slip out to someone I don’t know only because I do use it often with family members.
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I’m not Choatie but I don’t like it either. I find it completely inappropriate and too familiar, especially if it’s a man.
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True, probably not appropriate but I doubt there is any negative intent. I guess I feel the same way about the “F” word constantly used as an adjective for an ordinary sentence, not even as an exclamation - but I know it’s not meant to be rude and no one any longer says “pardon my language”, they just let it fly.
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I don’t care what the intent. Don’t.do.it.
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And no offense to @cinnamon1212 in particular, but no one owes a stranger the “courtesy” of a response to a pointed and loud “HELLO-O!” This elicits a familiar finger wave from me. I don’t talk to strangers.
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Meal planning with friends has lately had an annoying component. First annoyance: Couple 1 and we have plans to go out for dinner. Wife of couple #1 suggests we invite couple #2. I said sure, sounds nice. Then she wants me to get in touch with couple #2! Ugh. Her idea but I have to do it? And she suggested some restaurants that IDK if couple #2 will be ok with (wife of couple #2 is a finicky eater). Final plan- wife of couple #1 will contact wife of couple #2. Whew.
Second annoyance. 3 of us go out for lunch about once a month. Friend 1 tends to be very flexible. Friend 2 likes to recommend high calorie places or something other than what has been initially proposed by me or friend #1. Not really our preference as we are watching our calorie intake but we usually concede - not a big deal. We will find something. Well, the 3 of us have to get together to plan the hospitality bags for an upcoming wedding out of town. Lunch was rescheduled a time or 2 and is now tomorrow. We had decided on a convenient place for all. But no- wait! Flexible friend has a visitor in town who wants to join and wants to try Southern Fried Chicken. So they pivot to some greasy spoon place that is fried everything . I hope I can find a salad. Ugh
Culture clash. In our small town, not only do we say hello when walking, we wave hello as our cars pass on the road.
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My town is really friendly too and most people say hello but if someone didn’t answer I’d just keep walking. Many people are listening to something or on a call when walking so may not even hear the “hello”.
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Whoa - okay.
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Same in our AZ community.* Very annoying. I do not participate.
(*I blame it on the preponderance of nice Canadian residents.)
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I have a relative who changes every plan. Doesn’t matter what it is, they have to change it
Good thing I’m flexible
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I’ve lived in the South for 30 years now (dreaded Yankee transplant). Lots of endearments here on an almost daily basis. They never bothered me- I guess because the big smile and positive intention behind it is always welcoming and genuine. Many things were a culture shock after moving here but this one never moved the needle for me.
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We have a friend that consistently changes the plan. We will decide we are doing X and then he thinks about it and now we are doing Y. I have learned to be flexible and mostly it is fine, but occasionally really annoying.
Another friend is part of a group of 4 of us that do dinner for birthdays and other occasions. She will say she doesn’t care where we go for dinner, but will often end up not liking the restaurant we pick and then suggests some place else. Just do it initially!!
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Humidity. Humitidy annoys me. The last few days, I’ve thrown on my walking shoes, opened the door, and went back inside to hibernate. Thank God for A/C. I’m also annoyed that my extended vacation (as a teacher) takes place during the weather that I don’t enjoy. If I’m going to have 8 weeks to enjoy life, I’d much prefer it in the Spring of Fall.
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I have 2 friends who are always late when we get together. I don’t mind 5-15 min late, but when it gets to be 30+ min late I get very annoyed. They always use Uber or traffic as an excuse.
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The flip of it is when people are too early, especially when coming over to my place for drinks or dinner. Showing up 30 min early just really throws me off.
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I had a friend who was very late one time (well maybe many times). The last time we got together she was very late, and said something like “Sorry I’m late, I was talking to my sister in the car.” I don’t know that we’ve gone out since. I have friends I would totally be OK with being very late, because they are normally on-time. But chronic lateness really bothers me too.
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This is EXACTLY why since I retired from teaching we have vacationed every spring and fall, when we could never travel before!! Summer is hands down my least favorite season–I even prefer winter to summer: I can put on more clothes (only such much I can take off in summer), love the holidays, it’s college basketball season, no yard work (except for snow removal, and last few winters we’ve gotten hardly any snow)
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Your post time 1,000,000! I’ve long wished that we could just remove August from the calendar. There is nothing good about August. I loathe the summer, and here it seems to last FOREVER!
When H retired from teaching last year, we put off our 30th anniversary trip until September and went to Europe. So much nicer! And this year? We vacationed in May. Awesome!
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