Not to mention vacation rental prices go down in fall and are still less in spring before school is out for the big, busy, family vacation times.
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My husband retired last year. I can easily retire any time I want, but I love my job (took off many years to be a SAHM). I canât imagine not doing it, and Iâd do it forever if they would just let me travel when I wanted to, rather than school vacations. The crazy thing is, my students go to school year-round, but my contract is Sept-June.
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Just to show how much we hate the heat, since retiring we have traveled to:
Ireland, Iceland, Rhine cruise in the fall, Canadian Rockies, Scotland, Switzerland, England, Gaspe Peninsula in Quebec, Alaska. See a common thread???
Future trips? Nova Scotia, thinking about Newfoundland, maybe Italy but in winter.
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Follow up to challenges with dinner planning: UGH!!! Wife 1 did not do a group text (as I suggested) and now has given different info to wife #2 (the one with all the restaurant restrictions) than she gave me, and this led to confusion as to which restaurants she recommended. Wife #2 said one restaurant would work, and they asked me to make the reservation (which I then did, sending them the confirmation from resy) , but then wife #1 said it was the wrong restaurant, and now wife 2 rejected it anyway . AGGGHHHH!!! So I sent what should be the correct restaurant choices that âmightâ meet wife #2âs approval. I asked wife #2 to respond IN THE GROUP TEXT so we can all be on the same page. What a cluster XXX. No good deed goes unpunished. SOOO ANNOYING.
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This is why I avoid people. Highly overrated.
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And DH just texted and called about friends trying to confirm dinner time this friday. UmmmâŠ. dinner with them is Aug 15!!! That said, we had plans with some other friends this friday but those friends had to cancel (wife is sick). I told DH that if he wanted to invite the friends (that had the wrong date) to join us Friday, I am going to ask that we pick the time (we already have the place and I know these friends eat there so thats ok). I am so over trying to make plans.
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People who pull out right in front of you and make you brake when there is a long empty space behind you.. and then proceed to crawl along.
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Idiots who exit the YMCA parking lot going the wrong way (clearly marked ONE WAY) then stop because they want to get into the far lane, and it is blocked. YES, because you arenât supposed to exit that way. I couldnât turn in because there is only room for one car in the driveway. That means I block all the cars behind me, in front of the fire station. A standstill unless you MOVE.
We used to joke it was the most dangerous parking lot in the city, with the daycare (and in the summer an extra 250 kids in summer camp), senior center, regular Y members all trying to park, plus the fire station on the corner. Oh, and the mayor decided it would be a good idea to put bike lanes on the street, making 2 lanes one lane (thus the constant back up at that intersection).
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Although a comment by me started this threadâŠIâve been working on not sweating the small stuff. (Donât always succeed but Iâm trying!)
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I donât blame you. Showing up to someone elseâs house 30 minutes early is shockingly rude. Iâd walk around the block a time or two to burn up the extra time before Iâd do that to someone.
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Iâm usually early. But if Iâm a LOT early, Iâll just go to a coffee shop, or wait someplace.
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Whenever we hosted an event with both my side of the family (they take times as a suggestion) and my husbandâs side (his father was a naval officer), weâd tell my family to come a 1/2 hour earlier than the time we actually planned to start and his family to come 15 minutes later than the actual start time.
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This is a tactic I use with my spouse and his relatives. They are all always late to everything.
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My ex in-laws showed up something like 2 hours late to an event their daughter planned. I literally told them if they did that to us, we would be eating without them. They got better over time, but were never great. I too sometimes adjusted the time of an event to get certain people there closer to the time I wanted.
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We are always on time or a few minutes early, depending on whom we are gathering with. My older sis is chronically late so when I do anything with her, I plan accordingly. My friends tend to be prompt. Hâs are mostly prompt too.
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My 30 year architectural shingles that dissolve after 17 yearsâŠbut, you know, limited warranty and I fall in that limited category so a whole new roof - ughhhhhh!
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We could probably have a whole thread about people not on time. My in-laws were one hour (not a typo) late for the HS graduation dinner for our DD. I called the restaurant and changed the reservation to an hour later. They still werenât here when it was time to leave. They drove in just as I was ready to pull out of the driveway.
They had stopped on the way to change clothes.
But they were late for everythingâŠas is most of DHs family.
When I go there, I usually make dinner one night while there. I politely tell them the time the meal is being served, and that anyone not on time can heat theirs up in the microwave. That is how I got them to at least be on time for dinners I cooked.
When DHs family comes here, I never plan a meal when they arrive. Just canât deal with the lateness.
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My ex sil and her family were famously late to everything.
Boy, I do not miss that!
I hear that lateness can be a symptom of ADHD. I try to think of that when some people are always late.
I also try to never schedule anything with those people.
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Thatâs how my Hâs aunt & uncle always are. Perpetually late to everything. Like late to the point where theyâll say that theyâre hitting the road to drive to us (~ 6-6.5 hr drive) and should get here about 8:00 pm and they donât show up until 2:00 am.
When my MIL was sick & dying 2 yr ago, for a 3 week period, it was a daily occurrence with them of phone calls back & forth with my H. Theyâd say in the morning, âOh weâre going to leave today to come to you.â Then itâs 11:00 pm and theyâd call to say, âWeâre not coming today. Weâll get there tomorrow.â
Iâm still mad about it.
Another thing that annoys me:
People who wonât commit to making plans with you. As in, they wonât RSVP, wonât say yes or no if theyâll be coming, and/or they canât make up their mind.
My sister-in-law (SIL) does this a lot. She wonât say yes or no. Sheâll say, âMaybeâ or âWeâll see,â both of which really mean, âNo. But Iâm afraid to say no.â She will then never bring up the topic again, hoping that you will forget about it and not ask her. And then she just wonât ever show up to the thing you invited her to. She ends up coming across to people as being very unreliable.
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Youâre late? Sorry. We started without you, ate without you, left (for the airport) without you, etc.
Canât make up your mind/commit? Sorry. We made a decision and moved on without you.
Youâre hurt we never invited/asked you again (and youâre family)? Sorry. You get exactly one chance with us. Thatâs it.
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