This board has made me change my mind

[IndianParent]

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I feel so sad for you, IndianParent. You are clearly hurting. Please don’t hate yourself and take it out on those around you. Get help from a counselor or trusted friend. Your life does not have to be consumed by frustration and anger. I will even offer you counsel myself if you care to PM me. I think I speak for all of the fine parents posting in this forum when I say that we want you to be happy and fulfilled. Peace to you, friend.

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<p>I ate a whole tub of ice cream last night.</p>

[capenn15]

<p>Stop posting.</p>

[IndianParent]

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<p>The middle [ gray] option is to teach the child to learn to drive, when he is ready, a bit at a time, to allow him to take the wheel, with parental supervision, and let him to get the feel of it. To let him determine how he spends his free time, as long as he knows that slacking off wont improve his athletic or musical abilities. That hard work has its own rewards, that the mastery of a skill will make him feel good about himself, and will make his parents proud.

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<p>That’s exactly what I am doing. Let’s see if he knows.</p>

[IndianParent]

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Stop posting.

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<p>I can’t. Just like you can’t stop reading my posts.</p>

[thumper1]

<p>8 posts in about 14 minutes…just saying.</p>

[capenn15]

<p>Actually I don’t “read” them…I go to the bottom and post.</p>

<p>I keep thinking that I should go buy a banana cream pie. It’s my fav.</p>

<p>Oh forgot to post:</p>

<p>This board has not changed my mind.</p>

[SlitheyTove]

<p>I’m partial to lemon meringue, myself. Also bumbleberry. And chess pie. Really, any pie will do, except strawberry, which is a waste of good fruit.</p>

<p>Also, being bored can change minds.</p>

[IndianParent]

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Do so ONLY when your SON asks you to stop! If HE has a passion for music, then support him! Dont throw the baby out with the bath water. Just let him know that at this point, he has responsibility for how much he practices- some skin in the game as it were.

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<p>That’s what I meant. He can practice if he wants, or not. It’s not like the piano or the squash court is going away.</p>

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Tell him that if he wants you to pay for lessons then he need to make it worth your while

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<p>This I disagree with. He shouldn’t do something because of the financial reason.</p>

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and practice so that he and his teacher are pleased with his progress! Music has to be self rewarding, and not just for others pleasure or approval.

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<p>Self rewarding is all fine and good, but if self reward is all that he is after, then he doesn’t need to practice. He can just bang the piano for hours, like he always does. He can be very pleased with his progress regardless. The issue is whether his teacher thinks the judges will be pleased with his progress, and without hours and hours of practice that’s not gonna happen. I know this for a fact. So we shall see.</p>

[thumper1]

<p>I love banana cream pie too…I’ll go buy one too…but it will NOT be to feed to the ■■■■■. If we stop feeding the ■■■■■…with any kind of luck he will wither away.</p>

[capenn15]

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I’m partial to lemon meringue, myself. Also bumbleberry. And chess pie. Really, any pie will do, except strawberry, which is a waste of good fruit.</p>

<p>I love banana cream pie too…I’ll go buy one too…

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<p>Don’t really like lemon but my DH does…not a berry fan but cherry pie is good. Oh and I had the best coconut cream pie at a local diner here. Small town so good food is hard to find.</p>

<p>■■■■■■ make me think of those little short creatures with the funny colored hair from my youth…</p>