This girl...

College Life
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<p>So today I was in a really bad mood. The weather sucked and I was getting a cold, and my mood reflected all of that. I was feeling down and lonely, and yeah. It just sucked. </p>

<p>I also had to go work on a media project, so headed over to the media lab. When i swiped in there was this really cute girl who kind of smiled at me as i walked in. I recognized her from one of my classes, but i also think i recognized her elsewhere as well. </p>

<p>Anyway, I sat down at the workstation across from her and set up my laptop. I was in a position where I was leaning back to make it look like I was “relaxed” working on my project, but I also could see her. I glanced over from time to time to make observations. Soon after her partner came in they started working on their project. I continued working and a few minutes later she came over and was like “excuse me, can you help us with something?”. So I said sure and went over to their workstation. She asked if I could figure out how to record assuming there was a built in microphone. It was a mac pro, so it had no built in microphone. BUT for the first time in, literally, ever i had my good usb microphone in my bag, so I grabbed that and plugged it in and they were good to go. She thanked me, to which i replied, “your welcome!” and went back to work. About 40 minutes later I was finishing up and her partner brought the microphone back over and said thank you. I replied with your welcome again (always polite). Then the girl (who is sitting across from me) says, “you live in (insert my dorm name here) don’t you?” </p>

<p>“Yea”</p>

<p>“So do I! It was you I held the door for that one time!” And then i remembered where I also remembered her from. She held the door for me once when I was locking up my bike. I remember the girl being beautiful and that she smiled at me. I didn’t recognize her right away because she was wearing her glasses in the lab. </p>

<p>She said, “My name is (insert name)”</p>

<p>“I’m Dan”</p>

<p>“It’s good to officially meet you!” </p>

<p>Then I asked her what floor she lives on and she’s on the floor under mine. I said goodbye and took off. </p>

<p>I left in such a better mood than when i came in. There was just this aura that she gave off. It was something I wasn’t expecting, and maybe I was just imagining it but I felt like she was giving me good vibes. I don’t know though, maybe she is just super sweet to everyone. </p>

<p>What do you all think? Should I try and get to know her better and maybe potentially ask her on a date or something? I’ve never had a girlfriend before… so this is all rather confusing to me. All i know is that I felt something for her, and it was literally the 3rd time i’ve ever seen her. </p>

<p>Thanks!</p>

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<p>Ah, young grasshopper, you have much to learn.</p>

<p>That “good vibe” feeling you speak of is a well known phenomenon usually associated with some whimsical pretty young thing intruding on your day.</p>

<p>Now let’s step back and take a look at your situation - you’ve had an ever so brief yet pleasant conversation, and now you’re contemplating that you’ve “never had a girlfriend before” and thus the situation is “rather confusing”. Seems to me like you have the right idea, but you’re thinking in strategic terms, whereas you should be focusing on the more immediate tactical issues.</p>

<p>OF COURSE YOU SHOULD GET TO KNOW HER.</p>

<p>Nevermind an official “date”, go say hello, have coffee, study together, whatever is most convenient. In the worst case she’ll say no, and then you move on because this is a number’s game and you are surrounded by, in all likelihood, thousands of eligible women. (These college days are rare and rewarding times, best believe it.)</p>

<p>In the eventuality that she agrees, you’ll get to know her a bit, and provided you get along then you can ask her out if the situation calls for it. </p>

<p>If you like her, forget asking advice about <em>what</em> to do, just <em>do</em> something!</p>

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<p>Don’t expect anything yet. But definitely get to know her! She’s in your hall, for goodness sake! Just start off as friends. Don’t ask her out. Yet.</p>

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<p>This +1</p>

<p>10char</p>

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<p>Lolz…seriously, only on CC is there such puppy love among college age dudes.</p>

<p>Sounds like you barely talked to her…start there.</p>

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<p>So many young grasshoppers who have no idea. Why do people feel the need to be so normal and formal with their questions (how are you, what’s your major, where is you dorm) blah blah yawn, it’s boring. Mix it up a bit, be different, don’t plan everything you’re going to say.</p>

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<p>^ There are more reasons than that.</p>

<ul>
<li><p>She wants to boost her self-esteem by flirting with a guy and having him flirt back</p></li>
<li><p>She wants to get laid</p></li>
</ul>

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<p>So in girl’s world, a girl can’t have guy friends?</p>

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<p>Just be friends with her, for now. Don’t follow her around or anything like that, cuz that’s just creepy. If, after some time, you feel like this friendship can be something more, well, by that time you’ll know her well enough to make your own decision.</p>

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<p>Haha don’t worry I won’t be creepy. Yesterday was a bad day that was made better by interacting with her, so I couldn’t stop thinking about that the rest of the night. I’ll just play it day by day and see what happens</p>

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<p>^^^^ and ^^^^^ how entirely pig-headed of both of you…
All of those reasons are either due to the girl wanting something or being forced to talk to a guy. That’s completely dumb, not to mention wrong.</p>

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<p>^ No. No no no no no.</p>

<p>Most of my friends are guys. I’m not “looking for anything” from them other than friendship.</p>

<p>Not all of us girls are mindless like you seem to try to make us out to be.</p>

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<p>^ Terrible comment by girlstudent, I think that is a reflection upon yourself, not upon all women.</p>

<p>I know for instance alot of girls love having guy friends because it’s less drama and they are easy to hang out with, nothing to do with seeking benefits from them.</p>

<p>The only issue with guy/girl mates is the often present sexual tension.</p>