<p>yeah sorry i didn’t make that clear in my other posts haha</p>
<p>^exactly so it was a perfect time to do it because the more time passed the more awkward it would get and even harder to break the tension.</p>
<p>^ it’s probably a little awkward now. He’ll probably try to avoid you like the plague.</p>
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<p>^ true or false: guys only befriend girls they are interested in?</p>
<p>^ you read my mind! … TRUE! Why bother spending time with a girl you know you won’t get some, when you can spend that time trying to woo other girls?</p>
<p>hmm, unless there is a strategy involved. For example, you befriend a girl just to get closer to her friend or something. Like I would befriend Liyana to get closer to mme-lin. :rolleyes:
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<p>jeyday… you confronted him??? ahh… at least it’s over now… ?
but yeah… you did the right thing!</p>
<p>Two of my male friends from high school were never interested in me, but one (whom I consider one of my best friends) was…</p>
<p>So… somewhat true?</p>
<p>false, because guys befriend girls just to make friends, but their interest might grow in a particular one and it goes from there…</p>
<p>actually he has avoided me this whole day but he was in here earlier and things seemed fine. better than they were when it was awkward like these past couple days</p>
<p>Oh, and:</p>
<p>Dear CC,
I was accepted as copy editor for Pacific Ties. While I realize that it doesn’t have the prestige that The Daily Bruin does, it’s nice to have the approval.</p>
<p>hmmm personally i think guys can be friends with girls that they are not interested in but definitely don’t try to get to know them as well as the ones they are interested… like i know plenty of girls that i kinda knew? like i know their names, can recognize them on bruinwalk and say hi… but nothing much really deeper than that…</p>
<p>jeyday, why do you think the guys would befriend a certain girl in the first place? would it be “ooh she’s cute i want to talk to her” (well maybe not that direct) or “ooh she doesn’t attract me much but i’ll be friend with her anyway”…</p>
<p>i wasn’t saying a CERTAIN girl. i was just saying, in general you meet a lot of people and make friends with them. part of those friends (usually a majority) will be girls, and maybe you’ll like one of them especially because of whatever reason, and build your interest from there. i didn’t say you made a friend who is a girl with the intention of going out with her, just friends that one of them might or might not interest you later on.</p>
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that might happen after you have known her for a while and she interests you on a deeper level, as in with a mindset of dating.</p>
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are every single one of your girl friends attractive? does a girl have to meet your “requirements” just so she can be your friend and nothing more?</p>
<p>sorry grasspuppet, that strategy wouldn’t work. i’d see right through you and any other of emm’s potential suitors =P</p>
<p>fair enough good response, kinda confirms my previous post about how involved the befriending process differ… you have a great point right there, but i still think that unless there is a pre-arranged meeting event (well i don’t think thats the right phrase for it but i mean like your floormates and such, you kinda just have to meet them and be friends without either side initiating it) then there are times like you walk into a class and you have to pick your seats… i normally find someone im more interested in than someone that i am not interested in… does that make sense? 
(haha you are probably writing down notes that says: “note to self: don’t take class with kick53rv3” haha)</p>
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False. If a guy’s interested, he’ll go for you… it might take 10 seconds for them to approach you and make a move… or maybe 10 years. He’ll go for you if you’re that appealing. If it’s a friend, it’s more of a thing of convenience, having close interests that keep you together.</p>
<p>With friendships, the thing is, they’re not the most difficult things to maintain… relative to relationships. With friendships, there is always a certain degree of certainty that you’ll remain in touch with them unless something goes extremely wrong (murder, theft, poison, sabotage, backstabbing, etc). People can keep acquaintances. When there are a lot more incentives (similar world-view, experiences, and uncanny amount of shared interests), we become more prone to prioritizing that person over another. For example, there’s a reason I would strongly prefer seeing Liyana179 than GrassPuppet for instance. With the former, we share a fair amount of things in common and get along very well. Puppet, however, is someone I completely despise. I wish nothing but ill will for the Pup. </p>
<p>Romantic relationships on the other hand require a lot more energy to maintain if it’s anything remotely serious. There’s also the very real possibility that for some reason, things won’t continue. Your friends will generally be your friends (at least acquaintances or correspondents in the long run as long as there are no negative feelings). Relationships constantly ebb and flow. Emotions change. People are vulnerable. They get hurt and the investment from both parties has to be mutual. For friendships, it can make sense for one person to be more firm about getting the friend to get out out of the house for a night out - people generally accept things face value. With relationships - it could mean disaster if someone is taking more initiative.</p>
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<p>Overall, I think the best way to pursue a long-term relationship is to start off a strong foundation of getting to know each other and friendship and that sort… granted that you’ve acquired enough dating experience to know the differences between what it’s like having a short-term versus long-term thing or one that started off as dating as opposed to one that was mostly friendship… and you’re at the right time of your life to even consider the possibility . . . </p>
<p>Anyway, I’ve heavily digressed. He’s interested? He’ll go for you. Depends on the man and his character but it should become apparent his degree of interest. Do guys only ‘befriend’ girls they’re interested in? No. It’s not like we consciously decide if we’re going to befriend someone - unless we have ulterior motives (example: eventually warming up to them and requesting for a date). Most people, if they get along with someone enough, see incentives for maintaining ties with them. Things strengthen. People only have so much time to allot to friendships and romantic relationships. You choose wisely and not surprisingly there’s a hierarchy to your circle of friends (and acquaintances).</p>
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<p>Fine, it’s over! :mad:</p>
<p>i know what you mean when you talk about the floormates, because like it or not we have to meet and get along with them anyway. a guy might meet a girl he is interested in on his floor, or he might not. that really does depend on how things turn out; you can’t control who the people on your floor are. doesn’t mean you should just go for the “interesting” ones…</p>
<p>but you make it sound like you want to be just around the “interesting” girls. you should try sitting next to one that wouldn’t have interested you before for whatever reason, and you might just become really good friends with her, or even “fall in love” with her, you never know. err but wait, you love everything about her now that you know her more on a deeper level than just what what’s on the outside. does that mean you’re going to ditch the idea of dating her just cuz of the “cover”, even when everything else about her you are attracted to?</p>
<p>i’m assuming you think you’re at least decent looking yourself that girls that interest you usually respond back…</p>
<p>don’t judge a book by its cover though</p>
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are you saying that i wouldn’t want to be in the same class as you because you don’t think i would be as interesting of a girl you would want to approach and/or sit next to? or is it cuz you would totally spot me and come sit next to me, later on to find out that i’m jeyday from CC :rolleyes:</p>
<p>Dear Puppet, you can’t end something that was never (and will never be) there in the first place.</p>
<p>jeyday, you are prolly right, i think i do judge the book by the cover most of the time… i’ll give your idea a try sometime i guess, and the note comment was a joke but maybe i’ll randomly sit next to you then later find out you are jeyday from CC haha</p>
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<p>no need to thank me later on! :)</p>
<p>dear cc,
fridays are the most tiring days. not because of my classes, though. in a week: mondays don’t matter, tuesdays i don’t have class until 1 pm so i get to sleep in. wednesdays i have to wake up early, and i have four classes to go to followed by homework for thursday. which makes me really tired, and by the time i finish it (with all the distractions that have been taking place lately) it’s around 2 or 3 am. on the contrary, i have to wake up early for an 8 am class THE NEXT MORNING (thursday morning). after that class i come back to my room, sleep for about an hour, and go to a lecture around 2 pm. but that does not do me much justice… thursday nights i have more reading/homework for friday, hence staying up late again. friday i am so tired, after all my classes end, i have to pack to go home for the weekend. basically i am about to drop dead right now haha. this has been my routine for the past two weeks.</p>
<p>not to mention, i walk to and from campus to my room on an average of three times a day (wednesdays i walk four times back AND forth). that hill is such a killer. and i saw two squirrels chasing each other and fighting over some food on my way up a couple days ago. haha</p>
<p>my roomies and i procrastinate and some people from our hall that we’ve made friends with and are always hanging out with are always at our room. i seriously need more hours in the day.</p>
<p>we have decided to make study hours during the day (at least 2 or 3) where no one can come in and we’re not facebooking/blogging/youtubing/procrastinating. because once our “guests” leave around 1 am every night is when we get down to business until 3 am when we finish homework.</p>
<p>thats a pretty tough schedule but why make so many trips? is your classes really spread out (like 3 or 4 hour gaps?) because i find that im the most productive when i stay on campus, go to the library and do homework there, much harder to get distracted in a library… plus 20 min walk to and back means you have 40 more minutes for homework every trip but your way does give you more exercise which is always good
also why do you go home every weekend? i really find home horrible these days since i don’t get along with my parents that well and i tend to go home once a quarter or so (dorms are a lot more fun since most of my friends from home is at college anyway) i mean im not trying to interfere with your family life but if you are going home by your choice with no outside pressure you should try to stay on campus sometime, weekends can be fun :)</p>