My son can not go to his first choice school. We just couldn’t swing it. We filed an appeal and were awarded $3K more which did not help enough. He has chosen another that looks to be a good fit and has great potential for him. He sent out emails to all the schools he’s declining and has gone through the “grieving” process of the school that got away. And somehow, despite the email thanking them for their offer of acceptance but…yada, yada, they continue to send welcoming letters reminding him to send in his deposit and telling him they’re looking forward to seeing him on campus in the fall, and asking if he’s excited for orientation. Stings a little with each email or letter. Not just one school but 2 or 3. He’s very happy with the school he’s chosen and has even connected with a couple of incoming students on social media through the school’s class of 2022 page. We did the right thing by informing the schools he would not be attending. Why are they not getting the message???
My daughter had one school that just would stop contacting her after she emailed her regrets. It was hard for her too because it was a very difficult decision. She actually emailed them twice to tell them she wasn’t comeing and they still kept sending her welcome information. At some point, I just told her to forget it. They would get the picture when she didn’t show up!
The emails are sent by an automated server, and to stop them someone has to update the database to remove those who have already applied. Look through the email, and you might find an “unsubscribe link” to stop them, but otherwise, you have to understand they many schools don’t make a huge effort to remove students from that list.
Perhaps if her email has filtering, she can filter those emails straight to the trash, where she won’t see them - she could also mark them as SPAM if she doesn’t care about hearing from them again for any reason.
“Why are they not getting the message???”
Because like in most bureaucracies, the left hand doesn’t know what the right hand is doing. Someone (or some computer) has not yet gotten the word.
I posted the same issue on the parent forum. They are finally starting to stop now.
Just wondering if an email was the correct / official way to decline the acceptance of admission from the other schools. Some schools have a postcard or form letter that you must complete and return via snail mail.
My kid kept on getting invites from schools we couldn’t afford, and it stings.
Can the emails be blocked by your server? Seems that could make a student’s rejection of a school more mentally complete too.
We kept getting some snail mail from colleges (and the military) for a couple of years after each of my lads left. I figured schools/military were hoping they’d change their minds. It didn’t happen.