<p>Hello Parents! I figured this would be a good place to ask for tips before I meet my girlfriends mom. Thanks! </p>
<p>Just be yourself. Smile. Say you’re happy to meet her. Tell her one (or more) thing(s) you like about her daughter. Good luck. </p>
<p>If you are going to her house, bring a small hostess gift. </p>
<p>Shake her hand and greet her “it’s nice to meet you Mrs. So and so”. Let her lead the conversation and give more than yes/no responses. </p>
<p>How long have you been dating? Where are you meeting? Agree i that if you are going to their home, bring a small gift or flowers. If meeting for coffee or a meal, be sure to stand up if you are already seated, and be yourself. The fact that you are asking here is already a good sign!</p>
<p>Squeaky clean-clothes, shave, shower. Extra deodorant-expect nervous sweat
Your regular clothes are fine, just make sure they are freshly laundered-no stale smells like smoke, dorm aroma
Eye contact
Please and thank yous
Say goodbye+thank you when you leave
Keep your phone in your pocket, excuse yourself to check it, if you must
No sexy time PDA in front of her parents
Excellent table manners and appropriate table conversation-personally, table manners can be a deal breaker</p>
<p>ooh excellent suggestions, beerme. </p>
<p>@jym626 we have only been dating for around a month the main reason I need to meet her so soon is she is very strict and doesn’t want her daughter driving with me anywhere until she meets me which I understand
Most likely I’ll be meeting her at their house </p>
<p>Are you in HS or college?</p>
<p>@jym626 HS, I’m a senior and she is a junior </p>
<p>beerme’s suggestions are great. Knowing you’re in HS, always opt for the more deferential of your options. </p>
<p>Excellent advice above. Re: “Shake her hand and greet her ‘it’s nice to meet you Mrs. So and so’ ,” I’d ask your gf whether her mother goes by Mrs. or Ms. </p>
<p>You might want to find out if her last name is, in fact, the same as your girlfriend’s </p>
<p>If you live in the South the use of “ma’am” never hurts :-). </p>
<p>If you live in the North, DON’T use “ma’am”!!</p>
<p>I would personally skip the hostess gift, but you might want to ask if that’s the local custom. As the receiving parents, we would think of it as “too much, too soon.” </p>
<p>As the father of a boy whose nearly two-year relationship with his gf has not completely warmed up his gf’s parents (and he’s a very nice kid, not a “bad boy,” Yale student, faithful and respectful towards his gf, etc.), don’t get your hopes too high and don’t take any chilliness personally. </p>
<p>I don’t care so much if the young man is nice to me. I try to see if he is nice to my daughter. As an example, when he gets up to get more drinks or food, does he ask my daughter if he could get something for her too (or ask everyone at the table if anyone needed anything). If my daughter is busy helping me in the kitchen, does he come over to help HER out or does he just sit there to be waited on. More importantly (not sure if OP could do anything about this one), when my daughter looks at him does she look happy.</p>
<p>Yes, just be your polite self. Don’t try to be someone you are not.</p>
<p>You might consider asking, “Is there anything I can do to help?” if she is preparing dinner and then offering to help clear the table after dinner.</p>
<p>If you use the restroom, make sure to wash your hands afterwards and put the toilet seat down. My D’s boyfriend is your age and a great guy, but he always leaves the seat up and it annoys me.</p>
<p>OP- a senior and junior in which-- HS or college??/</p>