<p>I would personally skip the hostess gift, but you might want to ask if that’s the local custom. As the receiving parents, we would think of it as “too much, too soon.” </p>
<p>As the father of a boy whose nearly two-year relationship with his gf has not completely warmed up his gf’s parents (and he’s a very nice kid, not a “bad boy,” Yale student, faithful and respectful towards his gf, etc.), don’t get your hopes too high and don’t take any chilliness personally. </p>