<p>^^^A+ for your son. I would let my girls date your son. 
D2 is dating someone who will get home no matter where they are. Sometimes it would mean for him to take a subway with her from Brooklyn to our apartment and then go back by himself. As parent, I like the fact I donât have to worry about her coming home late by herself.</p>
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Last time DS and his GF went to NYC for a day trip, they came back quite late. (We texted each other about the time they got back, so we knew.) It was also because they needed to take Metro-North commuter train for quite a long time. I think if her parents set up a curfew, they would not come back so late. Both live in the same dorm so it was less an issue if they came back late. (They are also much older.) But they did have to take a cab from the train station in order to be safe. Both her parents and we live thousands of miles away. I actually have some lingering concern that if her parents also knew that they came back to the dorm so late, her parents might be upset. (But what can parents do when the âkiddosâ live so far away and for so many years already?!)</p>
<p>I was amazed by the fact that they managed to stay at Manhattan for so long. I have never been there so I do not know how fun it is for young people in that part of NYC. I heard that they went back to the dorm that night and both went back to the âstudyâ mode the next day, which is Sunday. It appears both of them play hard but also work hard.</p>
<p>Just for stopping by as a high school student, I agree taking something is probably too much. My D1âs BF came to visit our house for a few days when they were in college, and he showed up with chocolates for me (which were also a hit with D2). He had done his homework. 
But that was like a hostess gift, and you arenât staying. </p>
<p>If you stay for dinner, DONâT say anything remotely critical about the food. Not even, âthis is not how my mom makes it, she does Xâ. One of my Dâs BFâs said something that I think was somewhat critical once, and he was not on my favorite list after that (didnât last long anywayâŠ).</p>
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This is likely not a difficult task because your D1 surely knows what your D2 likes! It likely means that D1 is willing to bat for him, and she is good at coaching him like oldfort said.</p>
<p>DS was once at his suitemateâs home and he dared to say to the host that he did not eat the food his suitemateâs mother happened to cook on that day. They actually went out to buy something else for him. I was horrified when I heard of this afterwards. (Somehow this family is still good to him up to today â they even kindly asked DS whether he needed their help to find a job when he graduated.) He also occasionally does not finish his food. I do not know whether I should inform him that this may not be OK when his GFâs family take him out for dinner or cook for them,</p>
<p>Just be yourself. Do not try to behave any different than your normal behavior, any pretend will turn any person off.</p>
<p>Oldfort, I certainly would expect any man dating your daughters to see them home safe. I know that is how I taught my guys-- they always take the girl home, no matter how late. One of my sons actually jokes about having a line in his budget for Uber.</p>
<p>Often my kid would take a taxi home by herself, but this new guy would ride with her and then go back.</p>
<p>Suppose your gf is named Alice</p>
<p>Just walk up to her mom and say that âitâs nice to meet Aliceâs sisterâ. Then turn to your Alice and ask âWhere is your mother?â</p>
<p>Works every time! :-)</p>
<p>Lolz. I would punch a kid who tried that on me.</p>
<p>More for the OP: itâs possible that her family will ask you a lot of questions about yourself and your family. If they do, answer honestly and donât be defensive. If you donât know the answer, just say you donât know. Donât try to be too ingratiating (older posters may remember âEddie Haskellââyou could look him up). Just be friendly and as natural as you can manage.</p>
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<p>LOL! </p>
<p>I donât believe that you would. Besides, youâre just a kid yourself. </p>
<p>Once you get older, youâll appreciate the compliment. </p>
<p>Alright, CRD. If 51 is a kid to you.</p>
<p>You look terrific. I would have guessed 29!</p>
<p>I would be very insulted and irritated if someone tried that line on me that I look like Dâs sister! I look good for my age but no where in any universe do I look to be anywhere near Dâs age! She looks like she could be in grade school, even tho sheâs 24 and if the guy sheâs seeing tries to flummery me, I will be very disappointed in HER taste.</p>
<p>Being natural is best, to me.</p>
<p>^^^I am not a parent, but I would be very unimpressed with anyone who tried that on me - itâs not about how I look or donât look - itâs about the fakeness.</p>