To be gray or not to be

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<p>Jonri-I think you twisted my statement, but you tend to do that with many of my posts, don’t you? I sincerely meant that I understand that it is not the least bit important to “some people” to be stylish. Those people include my sister (who DOES highlight her hair) who would not dream of shopping at some of the stores I frequent since it just isn’t worth it to her and many of my running friends who are stay at home moms and live in smaller communities. They aren’t into clothes, makeup, hair etc. That’s all fine. I’m not like them, though.</p>

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<p>Now, what tactless comment did I make?</p>

<p>I think you are confusing me with snugapug…</p>

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<p>IMO, it’s not the color, it’s the texture that makes hair look unkempt. My older sister has beautiful, naturally silver hair that is a bit coarse. She gets a keratin treatment periodically so that it shines and lays smooth.</p>

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<p>I shave under my armpits, but have never shaved my legs yet and don’t intend to start. I am blessed with very fine hair that is not noticeable on my limbs. I also never intend to dye my hair, as I believe the chemicals would cause more harm than any benefit I might reap. I am content with a letter salt in my dark hair and feel it looks just fine. Everyone has to find their own comfort level.</p>

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<p>NJSue, I think you are right about the texture.</p>

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I don’t know why the hairyness grosses me out, but it does. Particularly pits.</p>

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<p>SIGH, MOWC.</p>

<p>I disagreed about your post in this thread. I don’t–honestly–think I twisted anything. You feel the need to claim that I “tend to do that with many of” your “posts.” I guess you think I was “picking” on you. I wasn’t. Note that I did not single out your post at all. I simply remarked that I am sympathetic with the claim that everyone ganged up on a poster who said something less than PC about women who dye their hair after many posts saying not so nice things about women who don’t. </p>

<p>You then attacked MY post and asked me a question point blank. I answered it. If anyone is trying to attack anyone here, you are attacking me. If you don’t want me to respond to your posts, don’t direct them to me and/or attack me in them.</p>

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<p>I hate to say it but my younger very intelligent sister who lives back East is one of those individuals who has chosen to forgo certain grooming rituals. She will not cut her hair, has let it go gray, doesn’t shave her legs or arm pits, wears no makeup and wears clothes that don’t fit her. I love her dearly but I see how hard it has been on how her kids have been treated while growing up and has now alienated her from them, how it affected her career and how most people treat her like she is homeless. Whether we like it or not how we are judged by others does matter.</p>

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<p>It seems she has forgot all grooming rituals (a bit more extreme than hair coloring).</p>

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<p>Maybe, but I think this look appears much more “natural”:</p>

<p><a href=“http://images.politico.com/global/news/101119_pelosi_cry_605_ap.jpg[/url]”>http://images.politico.com/global/news/101119_pelosi_cry_605_ap.jpg&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

<p>than this look:</p>

<p><a href=“http://www.freakingnews.com/pictures/25500/Queen-Nancy-Pelosi--25818.jpg[/url]”>http://www.freakingnews.com/pictures/25500/Queen-Nancy-Pelosi--25818.jpg&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

<p>Could be the lighting, though.</p>

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<p>I will probably stop when I retire. Not till then for sure.</p>

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<p>She hasn’t forgotten, salander. She has chosen to do this. Sadly,the rules comes from her church. sigh…</p>

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<p>Well, my partly gray hair (brown with all sorts of gray streaks and stragglers) can get flyaway, especially in this humid weather.</p>

<p>So I guess I do deserve the “witch” moniker. :rolleyes: And I don’t wear make-up either.</p>

<p>(I do shave the usual suspects, though not in the winter–shh, don’t tell.)</p>

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<p>HAHA garland! When my girls played HS basketball they had a team bet going to see who could go the longest without shaving their legs during the season. Neither of my girls won the bet. ;)</p>

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<p>EK4, I guess I’m the last to know about Christian Bale!</p>

<p>So jealous, HImom - I get a 5 o’clock shadow on my legs! :wink: My comfort level is wearing pants.</p>

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<p>I promised DD that I would color my hair until she graduated HS, so that was a bit more than a year ago. My roots were showing after two to two and one-half weeks! It turns out that most of my gray is in front – where I can see it! But I figured I was to the point of needing to go the salon route for low lights and all that, and what with tuition payments, I decided to update the rest of my appearance and took up nail polish at the age of 59.</p>

<p>Maybe it is because my birth colored hair is/was black, but I don’t see how any of you non-blonde ladies deal with those roots! My hair grows fast, and as I grayed, I went from every six weeks to every five, then every four, and finally every 3.5 or three weeks which IMHO is too much chemical. I am so over that chore! So now my hair is basically charcoal gray with silver streaks at the temple. I like the texture that the gray gives, but I go for a bit of polish in the rest of my look.</p>

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<p>If my mom is any guide, she has never colored and is in her 80s and still has lovely mostly black with a touch of silver grey. I think it looks fine and natural, as it is. Her brothers never shaved a day in their lives and died without a whisker. S shaves a few times a month, max. H has to shave at least daily to minimize shadows, but lets it grow over the weekends if he’s not going anywhere.</p>

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<p>My MIL was an Italian woman with ink black hair. In her much later years, she got silver at the temples.mit was very distinguished and elegant looking. I, on the other hand, have hair hat has just completely faded of color. Not attractive.</p>

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<p>I like how I look without gray and I really don’t care what people think about it. That being said, I’m mildly offended by comments that a woman who colors her hair is “inauthentic”. That’s a very judgmental statement; it’s just as bad as making negative comments about women who have gray hair. I don’t think coloring your hair is a character flaw or means that you aren’t authentic–whatever the heck that is. I also don’t think that letting your hair go gray puts you on a higher plane or suggests that you are a more authentic than someone who does.</p>

<p>I think it’s silly to deny that age discrimination doesn’t exist. It does and I think it’s worse for women. I completely understand a woman who’s in the workforce making the decision not to go gray. </p>

<p>Hair turning gray is the result of aging and I look at covering the gray as an intervention. Aging also affects almost everyone’s eyes–wearing reading glasses to assist with presbyopia is an intervention. If you wear reading glasses are you inauthentic? Should you just be “natural” and not see things?</p>

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<p>I think it’s pretty obvious Nancy Pelosi gets her hair dyed. Why would anyone think a woman of her age has that color hair? It’s her right, but honestly as someone said way back, once you hit a certain age you will have some gray or alotta gray and it doesn’t “fool” anyone if it’s dyed. If you do it because YOU like it that’s all that matters.</p>