We just went to a destination wedding. We took three days off. Not a big deal.
Re: the timing…at our recent wedding…the bride and groom ran shuttle service from the reception venue to the hotels. They didn’t want people driving. The first van left at 9:30 which was maybe a half hour into the dancing. The almost 90 year old grandparents took that van…along with some others who had earlier flights the next morning. We stayed until 11:30… But only because the 11 shuttle was full!
There was a midnight run too, and then the end of the event, which I understand was after 2 am.
Is it possible to do something like this? That way anyone needing to leave earlier will be able to…some of the kids and parents might do so as well.
If I read this correctly, you are looking at next year, when July 4 falls on a Monday. Why didn’t they pick the day before (July 3) instead of the week before? That said, if I am looking at the calendar correctly, they are getting married on my birthday. What time should I be there to celebrate?
Kidding aside, these young adults are probably pretty used to staying out late and going to work the next day! Just be sure there are some designated drivers. Lastly, most people don’t stay til the end anyway.
We selected a Sunday for our son and (now) dil. It was a three day weekend. Friday night “our” side had a very informal party. Other side a Shabbat dinner. Saturday…rehearsal dinner for 80 in our backyard. Sunday…wedding…Monday…brunch. Tuesday…collapse.
“What are your thoughts on Sunday weddings?
Specifically, would you come to a Sunday evening wedding between 1/2 and 1 hour away from home?”
Between 1/2 and 1 hour away from home doesn’t even register as a significant or meaningful distance to me, at all. It wouldn’t be anything I’d take into consideration. If you were talking 2 or more hours, then I might feel differently.
“I am in the “old people” category, but I would not stay til 11 pm if I had to drive an hour or so back home and get up for work the next day. What time is the ceremony starting? And what is the timetable for folks getting started with food/beverage? What time does “dance party” begin?”
It’s probably less important that the fifty-something crowd (self included) stay till 11 pm – we’re not the ones who are making it a party – it’s the young people who are. By the same token, you want to sit them closest to the dance floor!
I 'd go. Up to an hour away doesn’t seem that big a deal and I am definitely not in the twenty something age bracket! The older I get the more I realize that experiences and family/friends are what us important!
I would love an opportunity to celebrate even if it meant I was a little tired the next say. Enjoy!
Jym, it is next year and I think you have the date right. They didn’t pick the week following because they are hoping to have a ten day honeymoon and the following week would bump into summer school.
Listen, if you are willing to sit with me and coo over the bride, we would love to have you. We only have one table at this extravaganza and there could be fewer members next year.
We had our wedding on a Thursday. No problem, according to the rabbi. Many of our friends still in school were just finishing the semester, so they were still in dorms/apartments and didn’t have to pay for a hotel, and we wanted folks (esp. my family) to be able to get home in time for Christmas. Got a good price from the caterer, though they were not happy about us asking them to remove the Christmas decorations. We had about 55 people, but that was what we expected anyway.
An hour away is not a big deal to me – though think about where the festivities will take place vs. weekend beach traffic.
A 4:00-4:30 pm wedding (esp. if the wedding’s at the same site as reception) would mean things break up around 10-11.
My nephew just got married this past fall on a Sunday. Ceremony at 4, reception 6-10. We are out of state, but S1, S2, S1’s GF and I flew in Sat-Monday. We each took a day off work. The negative was many friends and relatives were too far away or unable to take a 3 day trip during the school year and the grandparents are too infirm. It would have been easier in the summer.
I would have no trouble attending a Sunday wedding with less than an hour travel, though I would probably leave around 10 to be ready for work Monday.
I would attend. If I’m being invited, I assume it’s because I’m close to either a member of the couple or their parents. I think it’s considerate not to plan for it to go too late on a Sunday night, for example a luncheon or starting late afternoon/early evening. I wouldn’t leave early unless the reception went into the wee hours.
As an aside…where I work, any teacher who doesn’t show up for the last day of work is docked their pay…unless they have a doctors note.
What does her school do about snow days? Are they added to the end of the year? This year, our schools have had 6 or 7 snow days…And there won’t be many days off between the end of the regular school year and the start of summer school.
Like I said…choose a date. It is up to those invited to decide whether to come…or not. No matter what you do, you won’t please everyone!
It would be nice if the main wedding events could be done at a more reasonable hour for those who do need to leave earlier (say 10 ish) for one reason or another. And then those wishing to close the party can stay until the bitter end.
zoosermom, as they say in the old country, “Mazel Tov!” I’d absolutely come if I was invited to a wedding on a Sunday evening, certainly if the drive home was an hour or less. I’d stay until 11 p.m., too. And yes, I’d be at work before 8 a.m. the next day. Celebrating a milestone event with family or friends trumps sleep in my book. As my mother taught me, “sleep is overrated!”
Yeah, I mean, that’s pretty “elderly” not to be able to stay up late for one night and be able to push through the next day. That’s seventy-something behavior, not fifty-something behavior! I like an early bedtime as much as anybody, but if I don’t have the physical stamina to stay up til 11 for a special occasion, be in bed by midnight and function the next day, then I’d better do something about it!
Well, ironically, my future DIL just sent me the draft of their invitations. What time is your dau planning to start their wedding? My s’s starts at 6 (with a prefunction reception beginning at 5). Ceremony will probably only take 1/2 hour so dinner and dancing will begin at 6:30ish. I imagine it will be over by 10. Your dau can dial back the wedding by an hour and still meet her fiance’s desire for an evening wedding. Its all about compromise in a healthy relationship. If not, and he insists on starting later, guests will leave when they feel its time for them to leave. The wedding is a long way off. Plenty of time to tweak the wedding time since nothing has been booked/printed/ scheduled yet. Way early to be worrying about this.
I agree with jym. People will leave when they want to leave, anyway.
If they decide to go to 11, the ones who really count – their friends / the young people – will certainly stay.
Why worry that the older crowd may leave? So what if Aunt Ethel and Uncle Bert don’t stay the whole time? There will still be plenty of time to socialize.
And yes, I’d be at work before 8 a.m. the next day. Celebrating a milestone event with family or friends trumps sleep in my book. As my mother taught me, “sleep is overrated!”