<p>Hi parents,</p>
<p>I am currently working on my eagle project and my mother keeps <em>reminding</em> me about it. </p>
<p>No matter how many times I say it’s my project and responcibilty, she will not stop. This isn’t the first time this sort of thing has happened, it is probably around the thousandth time. I keep telling her that her interference is hurting me and not helping me, but she continues to. </p>
<p>For instance my main contact at the organization I am doing the project at is very hard to get a hold of. I keep calling the lady but once my mother went behind my back and called the person. The whole point of the project is for me to learn to cope with these set backs, but instead she keeps stepping in. Yes I am not a particularly motivated kid, but her reminders aren’t going to help anyone.</p>
<p>Summary: Mom is interfering on my eagle project and not letting me learn independence finding my own motivation etc</p>
<p>Any tips/thoughts/ideas other parents?</p>
<p>Tell her that you’ve lost interest in the project and you want to quit because she’s in your face too much. The only way you’ll keep working is if she leaves you alone.</p>
<p>Oops meant to post this in the normal section not the cafe
anyway
I don’t think that is the right solution
I may not be that motivated but I will do it. </p>
<p>The problem is she thinks she helping so she isn’t going to stop until she realizes she isn’t</p>
<p>Rather than telling your Mom that you’ve lost interest, you might try this tack instead.</p>
<p>First, don’t tell her every time you hit a snag. She can’t “help” you solve a problem that she doesn’t know about.</p>
<p>Second, when she asks you how it’s going, tell her all about the things that are working WELL on the project; don’t mention the current nagging little problems that you’re still working out on your own.</p>
<p>Third, when you successfully iron out a snag, the next time she asks about the project, casually mention that you’ve ironed out a snag and tell her about it and what you did to iron it out.</p>
<p>Fourth, if you do hit a situation where you know you’re in over your head, then ask for help from an appropriate adult. That adult might be your mom, or it might be someone else, like your scout master.</p>
<p>Thank you
that sounds like a good idea</p>