<p>I just realized that a very mature-sounding young woman whose posts i’ve been reading – and even responded to! – is my very own daughter… Yikes. I’m sure she’ll realize it too once she reads my last post. Double yikes.
This may be an unforgivable offense and probably time to wean myself off college confidential</p>
<p>Oh Dear! Quite embarrassing for you!</p>
<p>Did you figure it out or did she? Would you have guessed this questions or issues were brewing with her? I think it is sweet that you share this cafe!</p>
<p>oh dear,</p>
<p>That is too weird. Once I asked the mods to delete a thread I’d started because I realized a friend might read it, recognize herself and feel hurt. They deleted it right away. Maybe try that. Or just your post. It was strange calling my own post offensive, but they came through. Can’t hurt to try.</p>
<p>I wrote stuff about a problem with one of my kids once, then worried that someone I knew would read it. I asked for it to be deleted and they did.</p>
<p>Also, I wrote specifically about my son’s future dorm at college, and found out two posters were going to be on his floor. Then I felt bad, because I had written a lot about his college search and I felt like he wasn’t able to come to school with a “clean slate,” that others knew stuff about him that he hadn’t shared. Ouch.</p>
<p>Wow - that is weird, katliamom. Maybe your daughter will see the humor in it?</p>
<p>I recently recognized a person I know in real life on another board, where she reported that her daughter had not been accepted to an elite program that they have otherwise told friends did send an acceptance. I haven’t said a word about it, to her or anyone else - but for some reason I find that I’m embarrassed to know!</p>
<p>Like frazzled, I hope your D sees the humor in it, if the discovery is too far gone. But I’d second Lafalum’s suggestion - you can probably get the post deleted if she hasn’t seen it yet. I once responded to something someone else had posted, using her real name (because she’d used it). When she realized what she’d done and I’d picked up on, she suggested we both ask to have the posts edited, and the mods responded very quickly. I’ve also asked to have a post deleted for a different reason and once again they were quick to help out.</p>
<p>Today’s the day for identity issues here, I guess. </p>
<p>Good luck, katliamom.</p>
<p>This sounds like the play by Eugene Ionesco in which two people stand side-by-side talking about their apartment furniture. They begin to comment on some of the similarities of the pieces, color and arrangement. Eventually they realize they are each others’ spouse and live together.</p>
<p>I think the play was “The Bald Soprano” and I’m reasonably sure it was Ionesco. His genre was called “Theater of the Absurd,” not that that’s any consolation to the OP.</p>
<p>My daughter stays away from CC and I stay away from Facebook.</p>
<p>Maybe we should start our own Facebook site of just parents? I entered D’s stats and then quickly deleted them from that section of CC because it is just too easy to figure who the kids and their parents are. I have recognized several parents from my community by going to the stats page and looking at a particular college. </p>
<p>Thanks for sharing Katliamom. Bumping into my own child on CC has been one of my biggest fears.</p>
<p>My children never believed in online college searching; that was mom’s job. But my DD1, when searching for a link to a program at her alma mater, found a reference on CC. After reading it, she asked if I was ‘mominva’.
I am usually pretty guarded about revealing info; now more so.</p>
<p>“My daughter stays away from CC and I stay away from Facebook.”</p>
<p>Ditto…but I do worry about posting too many stats…I have avoided being “outed” by not stating exact class rank; I have actually “found” at least 5 of her classmates b/c they posted this…</p>
<p>Lucky nothing too embarrasing or confidential was written by either party. I PMd my D and fessed up before she figured it out herself. In response, if you can snort in an email, she did: “See if I ever post again.” I suggested we divvy up CC – I get parents/cafe/college search – she gets everything else. So far no answer. She may have bailed out of CC already. It may not be necessary to invoke Oldforts mantra “daughter stays away from CC and I stay away from Facebook” especially since I don’t even know how to get onto Facebook.</p>
<p>“especially since I don’t even know how to get onto Facebook.”</p>
<p>Neither do I…and one of my daughter’s has said to me, “No, Mom, I’m not teaching you”…</p>
<p>S is here on CC, but we know each other’s s/ns. He seldom posts. He often reads over my shoulder to see what I’m saying. Neither of us have done the whole stats and awards thing. He has told me I can disclose some stuff privately, however. I still worry who else out there “knows” us, though. 
S almost posted his stats and profile March 31st because he thought his story showed how much of a crapshoot admissions were, but he thought twice about it and by the next AM, was glad he had not.</p>
<p>katliamom,
Inquiring minds want to know – had your D discussed any of those issues with you IRL??</p>
<p>It took me a second to figure out IRL… (I am so out of it :)) Anyway, we weren’t discussing issues so much as exchanging opinions on schools/majors. Which is too bad, because my inquiring mind would love to know more than DD normally tells me.</p>
<p>Pretty funny. </p>
<p>I am on Facebook but I only have about 5 friends…all adults, including my married D. The college kids want nothing to do with me. Ah well.</p>
<p>I’m sure I’m pretty recognizable, and have occasionally wished I could delete my entire persona. Lately, though, I’ve felt that the support and advice I’ve received on CC was, and continues to be, worth the risk of being outed. I haven’t posted my kid’s scores or GPA, but certainly enough other things. However, it’s nearly impossible to discuss many of these issues with local friends because I’d bore them, or our kids are “competing”, or we’re in completely different circumstances. For example, common CC worries, such how to gain acceptance into the more elite colleges, would annoy many people we know who think we’re darn lucky our kids can even think about applying.</p>
<p>The other day my son was Googling info on the summer program he is going to, and some posts from me on CC were in the Google list.</p>