<p>I think there should be a corollary to the other thread- because it just reminded me of what she * didn’t* tell me.
She didn’t tell me she was ill & for how long ( she had mono that was diagnosed as flu)
She didn’t tell me that she was trying to save money on textbooks- so she didn’t buy her * required organic chemistry book*!!!
( she borrowed it from other students- I have no idea why she thought that would be sufficent)</p>
<p>She didn’t tell me that she was having a lot of difficulty with Ochem and since neither one of us asked to see the grades- she didn’t realize exactly how much difficulty apparently.
( all this is from when she was a junior @ Reed for those who are new- she failed the spring sem Ochem final & had to come home to take a year off and retake OChem- because we couldn’t afford to use her 4th year of finaid on only taking Ochem & it would have been unthinkable to write a senior thesis while taking Ochem- but she has since graduated :))</p>
<p>She never has asked for money- and I appreciate her thoughtfulness- but I would rather she ask- and get something she needs- than to go without.
( notice I didnt say want- but need is important)</p>
<p>I can’t read her mind- and I realize ADD makes it difficult to remember the important stuff- but that is why I wanted to get her a PalmPilot! so she didn’t have to go around with scraps of paper stuffed in her pockets like I used to! :p</p>
<p>I know I am not the only one who has a kid who thinks they can muddle through on their own- but geez- clothes for example-</p>
<p>She is still wearing clothes she had in high school-I would love to buy her something so she can be more impressive when she looks for a different job ( heaven knows I have gotten more than one job, IMO, just because they were impressed with my well cut suit)- but she is a typical science geek I guess, because she has no idea what to wear :(</p>
<p>( but tommorow- I am taking her and her sister shopping in Portland with no sales tax 
so I will try again)</p>
<p>Coming from an area with almost 9% sales tax- I am thankful for no sales tax</p>