<p>So, I am attending Northwestern as a freshman in the fall. My best friend is going to another school closer to home (I live in TX). I made my decision on the basis that NU would provide me the most opportunities and chances to excel and perform at a higher level. While I was sad that I would be going away, that wasn’t really that much of an issue (for the record, I was going to attend the college my friend would have been attending). But lately, I have been torn about the whole situation. It’s like I have this huge weight on my shoulders (regret/guilt) about not going to college w/ my friend (and don’t get me wrong, the school is also excellent). I’m not going to college just because of him, but it would have been nice knowing someone and already having someone to talk to. Well, now I feel like I forgot all the reasons why I went to Northwestern and I am kinda miserable over the summer, whereas had I gone to the other school, I think I would’ve have been a lot more excited about college. I think the main thing is I’m afraid of losing him and other friends I have (I’m a friend kinda guy). Some help? Like, it’s gotten to the point where I have almost not went to NU. Thanks</p>
<p>Don’t worry about it. You’ll make plenty of friends at Northwestern as most people will be in the same situation as you. You’re friend will be just fine as well. College is a time for branching out and meeting new people while realizing that you’ll still always be friends with the people at home (trust me, there’s plenty of breaks). You won’t lose any friends over going to Northwestern. I’m sure you made the right decision and go in with an open mind, ready to meet people and make friends. You’ll have an outstanding time if you do that and don’t worry about who you are missing at home. You might be a little homesick at first and miss people at home but that will go away as time goes by. Go to Northwestern.</p>
<p>I went to NU with my best friend. We’re barely in touch anymore- we simply grew apart, though we both pledged the same fraternity (he ended up dropping out). People change and grow apart, and honestly, I think it would’ve been healthier for both of us had only one of us been here- I personally think he should have chosen the other school he was considering.</p>
<p>Don’t make yourself crazy- it won’t matter at all in the end.</p>
<p>there’s no reason you can’t find other friends at Northwestern. the people we meet throughout our lives come and go so you shouldn’t be held back by a friend you think you want to stay attached to forever. that’s kind of crazy actually.</p>
<p>Just because you don’t go to school together doesn’t mean your friendship will end. Make a plan to keep in touch! Even though you are at different schools you will continue to have much in common. Good Luck!</p>
<p>You can use Facebook & Skype to keep in touch…</p>
<p>From an “older timers viewpoint” -
Every year for the last 25 years we have a huge Independence Day Party and included on the list are about 30 high school friends of my husbands and about 10 high school friends of mine. Not only did I not go to the same college as any of these people but I didn’t even go to the same high school as 3 of them - we knew each other from other activities. If your friendship is meant to be it will survive, although it might ebb and flo in how close you are, but it will survive 30 or 40 years or more. And this is without any electronic connections which makes it much easier today than in “my day.”</p>
<p>We also have many college friends attending out party and flying in from all over to do so and most join us every year. As you get older you accumulate friends but that doesn’t mean you disgard your old friends.</p>
<p>Sounds like you’re just going through some early separation anxiety. You made the right choice, believe it!</p>
<p>the gay scene at NU is actually pretty big, so don’t worry.</p>
<p>Well thanks for all the help, especially the last response although I don’t quite know what that is about. Yeah I’m feeling better about the decision… I’m just hoping that it will be a decision that I won’t regret in the future… tks!</p>