<p>Ok so I have a problem</p>
<p>What’s the matter, chillin’?</p>
<p>Er, we need a bit more detail in order to attempt any help.</p>
<p>Here are the steps to solving your problem:</p>
<p>[ol]
[<em>] Buck up, me lad (or lass)
[</em>] Face your problem squarely
[<em>] If there are only two possible choices for a solution, do not whine about a third option which does not exist.
[</em>] If there are consequences to your decision, accept that fact
[<em>] You can only change yourself, not someone else.
[</em>] …etc, etc. You get the idea.
[/ol]</p>
<p>;)</p>
<ol>
<li> Throw money at the problem</li>
</ol>
<p>lots of parents on this board who are willing to listen, and offer advice (if requested).</p>
<p>Do you really? So do I!!!</p>
<p>Maybe it’s a joke. Maybe chillin just wanted to see how much attention this thread would get.</p>
<p>He already got the attention; it works. Well Chillin, I don’t know if you have a problem but somebody else I know has it, and maybe your thread could contribute to get a solution. May I borrow your “pay me attention”?</p>
<p>My guess is that chillin started to post a thread, then immediately decided it wasn’t a good idea and edited out the content from the first post (soon enough that no “edited at…” notice appears at the bottom), since you can’t just delete a thread you started. (Do I win? 
)</p>
<p>Since Chillin makes wait “til 08”, I will borrow this thread to ask you parents and no parents yet what do you think of this. My D broke up with her BF months ago, but they started to talk again in a friendly way, she asked me if it would be ok to greet his family in Christmas taking some homemade cookies, and I thought it was a nice gesture. They treated her very well, but she came home upset because the boy didn’t want to greet us saying that it could only happen if she would date him again. Any comments?</p>
<p>What do you mean by ‘greet us’? </p>
<p>Sounds like the ex-bf is being a bit manipulative. Or maybe he misinterpreted her gesture, and got his hopes up for a reconciliation.</p>
<p>Cressmom, I remember your earlier posts. I think DD needs to give BF and his family some space. It was a nice gesture but too much too soon.</p>
<p>BF may say he wants to be just friends, but he doesn’t. Which is almost always the case, so she shouldn’t take it personally. I agree with ebeeeee – she should call it a day, at least for the near future.</p>
<p>I have the same idea, he won’t give up and I afraid that my D’s heart is still tickling for this boy, but since we didn’t get a “Merry Christmas” from him, it means that everything is normal. 
This is like watching a soap opera! Don’t worry my dear friends I will announce you when the season finale is coming. And be prepared to read the next season that will start in August when she moves to college…and so will he.</p>
<p>WOW - dont know what happened there</p>
<p>sorry everyone</p>
<p>It was a long message too o well</p>
<p>okay</p>
<p>well I’m a junior in highschool and my parents wanted me to come up with a list of schools that I wanted to visit during spring break… and I guess Ive kind of known for a long time that I wanted to go to any of these schools
Notre Dame
Southern California
Michigan
Boston College</p>
<p>Problem is, they are all kind of a reach for me so I did some researching and stuff for some safer matches and I really like</p>
<p>University of San Diego
Loyola Marymount Univeristy
Trinity University
Santa Clara University
(all 40 thou or more a year)</p>
<p>So my parents told me that they would pay for me to go Nd, usc, bc , mich… but that if I didnt get in to any of those then I would have to get significant scholarships to the next set of colleges or else i will be stuck at State U… which i really dont want to do</p>
<p>So basically Thats my problem… and I guess i got a little angry because those reach schools will be very difficult for me to get in, and I dont know if I can get “significant” scholarship money at the others…and I really really really dont want to go to a hugeeeee instate school</p>
<p>I dont know I guess it just upset me a bit…</p>
<p>While I don’t have any great advice, I know that this is an old story on CC, and I"m sure that now that we know the problem you will get a lot of sage advice. I can tell you that with your numbers that I saw on another thread (3.8UW, 1360, 2070 I think), you have a good chance at merit money at some safeties. The problem is, I’m not sure that your second list has any safeties – solid matches, but I don’t know how much of a chance there is for “significant” scholarships at these schools.</p>
<p>“My D broke up with her BF months ago, but they started to talk again in a friendly way, she asked me if it would be ok to greet his family in Christmas taking some homemade cookies, and I thought it was a nice gesture. They treated her very well, but she came home upset because the boy didnt want to greet us saying that it could only happen if she would date him again. Any comments?”</p>
<p>It’s clear that your D is still carrying a torch. If I were you, I’d stay out of it. Reflect her questions back to her instead of giving advice.</p>
<p>I’m also curious about “the boy didn’t want to greet us.” Were you there with her? If so, I think that’s getting you to involved in her romantic life (Yes, I know that she’s acting like she thinks it’s over, but it’s clear that she’s still interested in getting back together). Don’t tag along. This is her soap opera, not yours.</p>
<p>I remember that when I first started dating my h, his ex girlfriend dropped by his place with Christmas gifts that she’d (according to her) just happened to have bought early (H had broken up with her in Oct.). This included a homemade pie. Husband accepted them graciously, but still made it clear to her that the romance was over. Both h and I knew that she was still trying to get back together with him, just as your D’s ex correctly interpreted what your D was doing.</p>
<p>“So basically Thats my problem… and I guess i got a little angry because those reach schools will be very difficult for me to get in, and I dont know if I can get “significant” scholarship money at the others…and I really really really dont want to go to a hugeeeee instate school.”</p>
<p>So, are there any small in state schools that you can go to? How about starting at community colleges. Many very bright students start college that way because of the smaller classes. Another option would be to see if your public universities offer special dorms, honors programs, etc. that offer the experience that one can get at smaller colleges.</p>
<p>If you still want to go to one of those privates that your parents aren’t willing to fund, what are you willing to do to pay for that experience? Work during the school year in high school and college, work 60 hours a week during summer vacations, take out loans, etc.? After all, it’s your dream, so if you’re serious about it, you need to be willing to sacrifice for it. If you do these things, your parents also may be willing to chip in to help. I’m writing from the persepctive of someone who actually did all of those things to help afford my dream school.</p>
<p>chillin,</p>
<p>It sounds like you are in tune to just how much money $180,000.00 is and are grateful to your folks for being willing to pay that for one of your dream schools.</p>
<p>Another possibility is to apply for a ROTC scholarship. These can be truly full rides. Ya gotta figure that by 5 years from now we will be out of the nation building business for a generation or so. Unless Iraq turns around - fat chance.</p>
<p>beprepn</p>