Transferring back to my old college?

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Posting to see others’ views on this topic and any advise that I may not have already seen. Also, I feel like a thread like this would be useful for other transfers who may be thinking the same thing.

I’m a junior transfer to UC Davis this year. I’ve been really missing my old university, UC Riverside, and all the friends I’ve made there. I’ve at least been keeping in touch with them on social media, but they look like they’re having so much fun and I’m missing out on all the experiences they’ve been having so far.

Reason for my transfer is that I wanted to be closer to home (I’m from the Bay Area, and I do suffer from separation anxiety when I’m away from loved ones (especially parents)), but I really feel like I’m regretting my decision. Also, I absolutely hated the drives down to Southern California, and Davis is only 30 minutes away from my hometown. I’m majoring in Biochemistry and jumped straight into upper divisions here at Davis, but the expectations are a lot higher here than at UCR and I feel extremely overwhelmed. Luckily I joined a couple clubs here on campus to make friends, but I still feel alone and don’t have as much friends as I did at UCR.

I’m just wondering if my situation is a rare one. Also, if you went to school far, how did you adjust? I also had a scholarship at UCR, so if I reapply, would Financial Aid office be willing to give me back the scholarship?

Also, any thoughts on this would be great: my family was thrilled when I transferred to UC Davis and want me to stay at Davis because of more job opportunities available upon graduation (is this true?), but would they look down on me if I do decide to transfer back to UCR? I was planning on transferring in spring 2017 – if not fall 2017.

But any thoughts would be great. Thanks.

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Having separation anxiety is not rare, but in my opinion you should try to work through it. Unless you plan on living your whole live in close proximity to your parents, it might be a good idea to try to train yourself to live without them directly in your lives. It seems like you have a lot of friends that you miss, so they’d always have your back when you’re missing your parents. Plus you can always have a scheduled phone call or skype session to catch up with them.

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The way you are feeling is natural.

As i recall, you agonized about the decision before you committed to Davis. Now, here we are… you have about a year and a half left of school - which includes several months of Summer and other breaks. Trust the decision you made and the reason you made it and get on with your life. Even if you were wrong, - you have a short window to make the most of the path you chose. Don’t spend your free time at your parent’s place. Dig in with the clubs and course work at Davis and, before long, it will begin to feel like home - then you’ll have to move on to something else. That’s kind of how life works.