Hello,
I am freshman at SUNY Buffalo which is about 7 hours from home. I knew leaving home would be tough I knew change would be good for me. While up here my symptoms of depression worsened and I began talking to a therapists on campus. I just am sad generally here and I do have friends, joined clubs, and get out on the weekends…but I cant be happy and I feel like something is wrong with me. I didn’t want to tell my parents because of how tough it would be on them. However, I just found out that things between them are very hard. I was the ‘glue’ that held them together and now that I am gone, they do not speak to each other, they do not have dinners together, they do not go out together, and I fear they will get divorced or just become so isolated and alone. I simply cant focus on academics or my happiness knowing the two people I love the most are slowly suffering.
My mother also has become more and more forgetful and tired. Both my parents are in there early 60’s. My siblings all have moved on and work full-time jobs, my brother who is at SUNY Albany is able to come home on the weekends but that is tough and costly. If I transferred to a school such as SUNY New Paltz or Hunter College (in NYC), I could be home often and try to save them from divorce and keep them active.
I don’t know what to do. I really need advice.