…assuming you are still married / in-a-relationship, and regardless of if your child is grown and flown - when traveling, do you fly together with your SO or fly separately? My DH refuses to travel on the same plane with me if our kids are not with us. I think he’s nuts!
I can see his point. Whenever we get in the tube of death it always concerns me about what the kid would do.
We travel together. We have always traveled together.
When our kids were younger, we had a very clear guardianship worked out in case something happened to both of us.
Do you ride in the same car together? Walk down the street together?
A friend reminded us that if something happened to both of us at the same time…we wouldn’t know about what happened…anyway.
When I was married, my spouse and I rode on the same plane on the rare occasions we traveled by air.
Does your husband insist you and he ride in separate cars? Have you designated guardians for your children in case something does happen to both of you?
We have always travelled together regardless if our DD was with us or not. Driving in a car is more dangerous.
We never travelled separately. But we were both quite comfortable with the guardians we’d named in our will for our kids, too.
I’m just trying to clarify. the OP makes it sound like the husband won’t fly with everyone else if they are all traveling. Is that right?
I don’t understand his reasoning…
@thumper1 - I am sorry, I know I was confusing. DH will not travel with me, on the same plane, if our kids are not traveling with us i.e. we are going to see our son shortly, that means our son is there and we are here - DH and I have to fly to our son separately so that if a plane goes down, our kids still have one living parent. It makes no sense to me because as others have enquired, we travel in the same car!
Yup! DH is nuts. No wonder I’m anxious 
My husband and I always travel together. But if it makes your husband feel better to travel as a family if the kids are with you but to travel separately if it’s only the two of you, let him do it.
Friends did this when their 3 kids were under 18. They had no family on this coast, and God forbid anything happened to them, they did want their kids uprooted to another part of country. Having two Bay Area airports made this relatively easy for them.
My husband and I are so seldom in the same vehicle that when we are, I freak out. I sit for much of the first hour or so thinking of the guardians and trustees we have named for the kids, and whether anything needs to be revised. It does, as there is just one kiddo under 18 left. So I sit thinking of which of the oldest siblings would leave school to make sure he is okay upon notification of our deaths, and which sibling kiddo would rather have check in on him.
Same when we fly. It is awful. I’m working on it.
I totally understand your husband’s position.
Does the husband believe that flights are more dangerous than car rides? Is he a rational person on general? Does he has flight anxiety?
My grandparents always flew separately for the same reason your husband does. They saw it as being practical.
I’d make the husband take the less convenient flights. I’d say “These are the flights I’m on. Make your own arrangements.” (because I agree, it’s stupid). My kids don’t have a second parent, so if I die they are OOL anyway.
Once our entire department was going to a meeting together in another city and they made some of us fly on another flight. We weren’t happy because we all wanted our FF miles on the airline we always flew on, and they had someone make the arrangement and put us on all different flights.
I always travel with my husband. I am more worried about us dying together in a car crash than any airplane.
I get it. My husband and I took different flights to Europe last year but left and arrived at about the same time. I don’t really visit with him much on the plane so figured why not? Worked out great. And my anxiety level was hugely diminished. For domestic short flights, we’ve gone together. We recently bought tix for same flights on a Caribbean trip and I’m feeling less anxious than I did in the past bc one son is 19 and other kids are not far behind. But I feel like if it’s not a major hassle to fly separately then why not? Added security.
My progeny are now 28 and 30. Whenever possible we share the same itinerary and same car. My sibs are the same. None of us gave left our kids orphans so far.
My BIL is very concerned about dying young because his dad did (tho his mom lived till about 90). Even so, he and my sis fly together and are in the same car together. He did have me meet with their attorney to solemnly explain I had important duties to fulfill as guardian if he and my sister died while their S was a minor. I told them that of course I’m honored and will do my best but honestly think my nephew will live a long and happy life with both of them.
Once, S was on one airline, D was on another and H&I were flying together on a 3rd. (The different flights were based on using points & flyer status, IIRC.) Both of them got to their U but our flight was delayed a day.
I know hardly any orphans and think it is highly unusual to be an orphan when you’re a minor. I honestly think chances of being struck by lightening or winning a huge lottery are higher. 3:-O
My neighbors growing up were like that. They never flew together which never made sense since, as someone pointed out, it is more likely you will be in a car accident than a plane crash.
Dh travels frequently for work so he flies Delta or a partner airline wherever he goes. Due to his status, he is typically bumped to first class. However, this also means he rarely has a direct flight. We just flew out to San Diego with two of our kids. Dh flew Delta but the kids and I flew on Alaska b/c not only were the flights cheaper, but we also had a direct flight while Dh had to make a connection. I asked him if he got bumped to first class and of course he did so I guess having to change flights is a small concession for that privilege. I don’t mind flying alone since I typically read most of the flight anyway
It’s an irrational fear, IMO. As others have pointed out, you better always drive in separate cars. Might as well live in separate houses in case of fire or natural gas explosion, and eat different foods due to food poisoning or botulism.
Very irrational! Do you realize how few airline fatalities there have been in the last 20 years? But people don’t pay attention to statistics, obviously - that’s why lotteries are so popular. Everyone is sure they’re going to win a billion dollars and die in a plane crash.