I’m in my second year of college and I’m still having trouble fitting in and making friends. I have two best friends but when they are home for the weekend or away I find myself alone. I have tried to get involved, I joined a non-selective frat this semester and I’m in another club, and I’m friendly and talk to people in class, but I find it hard to make the shift from class friends to friends outside of class or club meetings. Does anyone have any advice?
First, if you have two best friends at college you are doing really well! I think your situation is very normal. Even for adults, its typical to have a few close friends but those beyond that are just people to be friendly with rather than. It sounds as if you are doing all the right things. Maybe give the frat some more time? Friendships do need time to develop. I’ve said this before but I do think friendships are harder for the I-generation because technology keeps people plugged in rather than forming close relationships.
I have been in college for 3 years and I still don’t have close friends. Don’t worry.