“mental illness” is almost as big a catchall as “illness”.
And the idea that “well, MY form of mental illness is not dangerous” vs. “yeah, maybe SOME people’s form of mental illness is dangerous” is bull. A woman in my state got off a murder charge (killing her son, no less) “by reason of insanity” yet the only documented mental illness was clinical depression. That diagnosis of clinical depression was enough for her to be cleared of a hate crime against a disabled person - her son who had a recent epilepsy diagnosis. We put all our sympathy on the “poor mother who was shattered by her son’s epilepsy diagnosis” vs putting any value on his life. But hey, they named a scholarship after him…
If we just start with that everyone is an individual, and that two people with the same apparent manifestation of the same mental illness must be different in many ways, then certainly people with different mental illnesses are different too. Can we instead screen aspects of mental illness, or more generally, severe anti-social thoughts, rather than pinning behaviors on generalized mental illness titles?
Every kid with autism doesn’t take off their clothes in front of many people. My nephew does. Every person with depression doesn’t cut themselves. I did. People who get good grades and play sports aren’t showing signs of depression. But I was depressed at the same time as I was getting good grades and playing sports - still did my homework though, still didn’t show signs in public of my illness.
What everyone really wants is “no fault” for them and their family and friends, and “100% fault” for strangers - the perps we see on TV. No one really wants to know or care about the struggles the Tsarnaev brothers had fitting in to life in the US (read about their dealings with colleges). No one really wants to now or care about Adam Lanza being tagged as “weird” and “anti-social” by people who knew him in HS. Or this guy - real or imagined discrimination against him due to his status as a black homosexual man, perhaps one who spoke his mind a little too often.
All we focus on is the result. We should of course focus on what could have made him not be a shooter. What forces could we as a society bring to bear to make him seek appropriate help. But can society do anything - we can’t lock up all guns - we can’t be a stable relationship for someone who has trouble keeping in relationships.
The Tyler Clementi case comes to mind as well. His mom clearly rejected him due to him being gay. Yet his roommate bore the brunt of Mr. Clementi’s suicide, like the “prank” was the sole reason for the troubled young man to kill himself. So let’s make rules about not filming someone without their permission, to prevent suicide? How about considering severe emotional abuse of your child the same as other forms of child abuse? Now she’s left with one gay son, so now she knows better, and puts down the roommate as much as she can. Because she can’t take responsibility for her role in her son’s death.
We spend too much time on these types of tragedies (and I don’t agree that the US is the epicenter of this - read up on mass killings in other countries, including China and India - the ones that are reported that is) and not enough time on the heroes, like those who prevented a major terrorist attack in France. Every time there is an “almost shooting”, like the one prevented this week at a high school by a teacher who calmed down a 14 year old with a gun, and convinced him to not let the next class enter the room - it is a side note and not big news.