Two suicides during one month….

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<p>Less than a month ago a junior boy from our school was struck and killed by a train. It was a really devastating for the entire community let alone kids who had AP examination during that time. This morning a senior girl also from our school died the same way at the same crossing…. Just a few days before graduation…. It’s so sad for everyone and so scary for parents… Something is wrong with the environment.
I hardly could find words to talk to my D. after first accident; she was very depressed even she didn’t know the boy personally, this time is even harder – she knew the girl since elementary school….</p>

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<p>Wow…and they were both suicides? I’m hoping that your school is offering grief counseling to these kids. In addition, what about something proactive? We have a bridge nearby which is frequently used for suicide and there is a movement in the works to put up some kind of barrier.</p>

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<p>tori–oh how awful. very concerning that there were two deaths in one month. you mention two suicides in the thread title, but then say “accident”. often families don’t want to call a death a suicide, understandably, so makes it hard to talk honestly with kids about it. has the school brought in counselors to help the kids? I feel for your daughter~so tough to lose a friend, at any age, but especially as a teenager. hugs all around</p>

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<p>Unfortunately they were both suicides.
I got email from the school that a team of counselors on the campus is helping students and faculty cope with the second tragedy in a month.
It was supposed to be a great day for seniors with writing notes to each other in yearbook and having barbeque right after the school… Probaply they are crying right now at the awful crossing place.</p>

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<p>Saying prayers for these children and their families.</p>

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<p>So very sorry…my heart goes out to the students and their families.</p>

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<p>The idea that suicide can almost be contagious for some teenagers is truly frightening. What a sad way to end one’s HS career. They should have plenty of grief counselors on hand, maybe with some tips for the parents as well, who probably knew the kids, too.</p>

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<p>I recall a popular girl dying simply by turning left in front of an oncoming car and another boyfriend who died on a RR track on his motorcycle…no doubt goofing around doing something stupid…</p>

<p>our entire class wept and carried on…and I recall being pretty unglued despite having rather superficial/not really close relationships with both young people…the brain is simply not wire up yet in one’s teens…and we are still so unfinished…</p>

<p>The ones who truly suffered the real grief were of course the parents who were robbed of so much for the most random reasons…</p>

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<p>In the village that the hospice I work for has its office (about 25 minutes from me), there have been two suicides in the last month, the second one occuring early this morning, also by jumping in front of a train. The school has actually had four suicides in the past two years.</p>

<p>Because our agency offers bereavement services, we have been asked to come do crisis counseling when it happens. However, I’m not at what point during the day today the news came out that it was a suicide, so I don’t know if we’ve been called or not. Their last day of school is next Monday - I hate to see the students lose the opportunity to just stop in a counselor’s office if they feel they need it during school hours, so quickly. Additionally, the students are in finals right now, too.</p>

<p>It’s just so very, very sad for the families and loved ones.</p>

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<p>I read in the paper this morning (I live relatively nearby, I know what school you’re talking about) there was a third attempt on Thursday night on the train tracks. However, the boy’s mom followed him there and was able to restrain him from jumping onto the tracks. What is going on?</p>

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<p>My mother is 85 and still has vivid memories of seeing a carload of kids from her high school get killed trying to ‘race’ a train. She said she had nightmares for years, and just couldn’t get it out of her head. Perhaps because of that I’m VERY cautious about crossing tracks.</p>

<p>A dad at our school was accidentally killed when he stumbled and got his foot caught. Are they sure it was suicide in both cases? You wish you could catch these kids in time and just ask them to please wait and just give themselves a little more time. The poor families.</p>

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<p>I saw this on our local news a few days ago. So sad.</p>

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<p>These tend to breed more suicides…somehow permission is given and it becomes a norm and an OK escape…it validates those who chose to do this. Kids need a lot of support through these next few months.</p>

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<p>The part I bolded suggests what’s going on. In this particular community, the pressure to go to a good college is enormous. Parents hear about two kids dying (and another one tried to kill himself a couple of days ago) and their response includes remarks about AP tests? Two kids dead, and we’re worrying about standardized tests?</p>