<p>So its been two weeks, and I dont know if I really like college. Ive made friends with people on my floor, but I dont feel like Im close friends with any of them. I feel like they are all closer with each other than they are with me. I have two roommates and they are ok, but we dont share any interests. They have been starting to get on my nerves a little too. I prefer when they are not in the room. I really miss my friends from back home. They are all having a great time at their colleges too, which makes it even harder for me.</p>
<p>The workload in the classes is too much for me so far. I have diagnosed ADHD, which makes it even more difficult. I feel lost in all my classes. </p>
<p>I feel like everybody around me is having a better time than me. </p>
<p>I was expecting college to be such a good time, and it just hasnt been. Any advice? Is it too early to judge? Thanks.</p>
<p>I just gotta preface by saying… you’re only two weeks in. You don’t feel like you’re close friends with people because it’s been 2 weeks. Most people don’t become BFFs after two weeks. As for your roommates, you probably have things that get on their nerves too. You just gotta survive, unless it gets really bad and then you talk to them about it. You miss your friends from back home because it’s only been 2 weeks.</p>
<p>The workload takes some adjusting, but you can do it. If you’re diagnosed ADHD then there should be help available, I would talk to the Disabilities Services, because they might have something available. Even disregarding that, you just need to make sure you set aside enough time to read your books and review notes, etc.</p>
<p>Some people adjust faster, some people adjust slower. My whole first quarter I was having some fun, but I didn’t have a set group of friends yet and I was only involved in one club.</p>
<p>So in summation, yes it’s too early. Keep going (or start going) to club events you might like, keep hanging out with your friends, talk to disability services or look online to see if they help with ADHD, keep working hard, and just keep being open to new stuff. This doesn’t sound like a serious issue, it just sounds like you’re still adjusting to me.</p>
<p>It’s been two weeks… no one is best friends yet, no one has a super close tight-knit group. Those things don’t happen in a week, it takes much longer. Of course you’re only just friends with your floormates, you only met them a few days ago. I’d say give it a little more time.</p>
<p>As for roommates, yeah, they don’t always end up best friends. If there are specific things that annoy you (like not wearing headphones when they watch netflix), tell them now and maybe you two can work something out. But spending more time outside of your room might help too. Go outside, find people to meet, things to do, and maybe you’ll make a couple new friends. It’s tempting to hide in your room the first couple weeks, but then you miss out on a lot of activities and fun things.</p>
<p>For classes, well, first of all decide whether or not your workload is manageable. If you’ve got 16+ credits, you might have taken on more than you can handle. Otherwise, make sure you stay organized, get a calendar/planner so you can keep all your due dates in one place. And figure out what resources your school offers, is there free tutoring? When are office hours? Can you join/form a study group? Who can you go to for help? You’ll have to learn to budget your time as well, plan time for sleep, some for studying, some for playing… find a balance that works for you. :)</p>
<p>Can you take only four courses this semester (and maybe next) and pick up an extra course or two next summer, in 2015? Start with a lighter load in freshman year. Get adjusted. More time for social connections, too. </p>