Hi!
For a bit of context, I live 40 mins from Berkeley so I spent the full day, while my UCLA was cut short as I flew in ~4AM and left UCLA around 1:30PM.
UCLA:
Pros: Weather, “cozy” campus vibes, libraries, passion of professors, food, access to DSP (BSMA program for math), Quarter System. Also a bit controversial, but I do prefer the hilly nature of the campus. study abroad there is also amazing.
Cons: Really far, not a target school for companies (which is apparently not as big as I thought it was), a bit harder to get internships (once again apparently the delta isn’t that bad), travel (and COI in general) is really expensive there.
Berkeley:
Pros: Close to home, access to Haas/Berkeley Engineering classes, easier to double major, access to consulting clubs (at least, much more than UCLA, apparently), more people who go there who can guide me (albeit none in my major), professors seemed generally nice. A big thing for me was wanting to teach my own class,
Cons: There were a lot of weird people on campus, and many of the students made you think, “how did they get into Berkeley??.” The math building (where many of my classes will be) is slated for demolition, because its really old. Food is really bad and housing isn’t guaranteed. Semester system makes exploration hard, and I will need several miracles if I want to take any CS class. Atmosphere felt gloomy even though it was bright outside.
Its Desicion paralysis. I want UCLA but my parents (and their colleagues, who I would consider to be in pretty good financial and social standing) have continued to prefer Berkeley. If I choose Cal, I will hate it there. If I choose UCLA, my parents will be dejected and I will lose a part of our relationship.
If I actually got Regents at Berkley, it would be an obvious choice for me as it negates many of the cons. But without Regents and not being MET they are both very similar.
Please help!