I’m a little confused… did you commit to UR before seeing your FA package?
As long as we’re being anecdotal, I paid ~$20k/year to attend (living on campus), and my family had a perfectly middle-class income with another sibling going to community college/state school at the time (I’m a few years removed). That put me pretty close to on-par with what I would’ve paid at a SUNY, and many of my peers had a similar experience. In fact, I’ve always heard that UR is quite generous with their FA packages.