<p>Some of us have used CC forum to ask for help with issues (problems) we’ve had with schools, children, and many of day to day problems. What I find often is that threads just disappear into second page and we never find out the outcome. Every once in a while I do wonder what happened with OP, if everything is ok now. I know recently I have asked CC community for help with 2 problems I’ve had with both of my children, and here are the updates:</p>
<p>1) My older daughter was ending a not so nice relationship and the boy was not going way in a very unpleasant way. I was afraid it was going to turn into a stalking situation. I took advice from some wise people - not to change her number, not to respond. I also got a book recommended by a poster. I just read it last week. It also said to not to respond and not to change number, but to get another phone. Contact continued for a month, but it has ceased since beginning of Sep. Daughter is very happy at school now, possibly with a new relationship.</p>
<p>2) My younger daughter was having problem getting out of school early for ballet and piano lessons. I took advice of some posters to contact more senior people at school, which I did. They didn’t want to openly go against the new director, but let me know since she’s my daughter that I could take her out whenever I wanted, as long as it was not during an academic period. My younger daughter has been leaving early, and is able to go to ballet, have her piano lesson on Fri, and do her homework at home.</p>
<p>Oldfort, that’s great to hear about your D in the stalker situation and that it has resolved itself!</p>
<p>I asked for advice in July about S1 who was going through a major breakup and was acting a little bit crazy. Well, it was very rough for a couple of months. The former g/f called him in the middle of the night 2 weeks after the breakup and made some noises like maybe there might be a glimmer of hope for a future reconciliation. Then she didn’t talk to him for another 3 weeks and wouldn’t take his calls. Yeah, that helped things alot. </p>
<p>Finally, he got her to meet with him in person. He had not seen her in person since a week before the breakup, so the whole thing had a surreal quality to him. The in person meeting helped. “Closure” and all that. After that, he turned a corner. It was 8 weeks from the breakup until there were “signs of life”. </p>
<p>After the meeting, he with great trepidation asked another girl out. She was nice and they went on several dates, though they have stopped going out now. Yep…rebound relationship.</p>
<p>Oh, and some of you may remember that I speculated about the guy who the former g/f started dating one day after dumping S1. I said it seemed a bit strange to me that a nice, good looking, 25 y/o guy would be unattached. Some people jumped on me because I guess they thought I said it was strange that he is unmarried, but that’s not what I said or meant. I said “unattached”. Well, turns out he isn’t 25, he’s 27 (she’s 20). I think the 25 story was for the benefit of her parents. AND it turns out that he was NOT unattached. He had a g/f himself who he had been with for 3 years. He broke up with her a week or so before former g/f broke up with S1. So, I stand by my thinking that it’s kind of unusual for a successful, good-looking 25 y/o guy to be unattached.</p>
<p>What a great idea. I’ve wondered about what happens to some OPs too.
Oldfort, good to hear that the situation with your older D is OK now. And it’s good that you could work it out for younger D to leave school early. </p>
<p>Timely, I’m glad your S is doing better after the breakup. These relationships are so intense. D is in another one now and I’m already worried about how she will handle it if, as usually happens, it’s not permanent. When her first bf broke up with her, she was devastated.</p>
<p>I’ve asked for advice on two situations with my D. For a while she was obsessed with enlisting in the military right out of high school and wouldn’t even consider college. I wanted her to keep her options open and at least give hreself a chance to find out what she wants to so. Now, although she still talks about joining, she is going to college first (she has her top 3 choices picked) and thinking about majoring in Arabic (which she’s taking at local college) , psychology, or nursing. The advice I got on CC helped a lot.</p>
<p>The other situation was when she struggled mightily with Functions (non-honors pre-calculus) last year. I got great advice on CC and had her tested - we found out that she has a nonverbal learning disability that impacts her math. We found a terrific tutor who helped her get through the class (she ended up with all A’s and C’s in Functions) She’s choosing to build on her strengths (taking 3 languages this year) rather than struggle with math this year.<br>
Of course I"m really glad I found this site!</p>
<p>Califa - that’s great about your daughter. You must be a bit relieved that your daughter is thinking of going to college first before she joins the military. </p>
<p>CC offers a lot of support and good advice. CCers give many different perspectives, I may not always agree, but it helps me to look at issues differently.</p>
<p>Califa, so good to hear about your D backing down on her determination to enlist! If she is interested in any of those fields, she should really consider an ROTC scholarship. It’s a sweet deal for someone who’d like to serve in the military!</p>
And thanks for sharing…</p>